"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Social anxiety, and SEREDYN.

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Have anyone tried this product to deal with social anxiety? I guess it's a drug that's seposed to help agaisnt anxiety attacks. This could be very useful in dealing with everyday tasks. Like big presentations, approach anxiety, etc. What you guys think? The side effects aren't bad so I might consider this.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Probably not, but I think it could help.. I get really nervous before I approach, but usually when I get to the girl I feel a lot better.
 

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ask ur doc for one of the following: xanax, valium, lorazepam
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Unless you have a serious diagnosed problem like bipolar disorder or schizophrenia, these kinds of drugs are usually not necessary.

Pre-approach anxiety is natural at first.. there is nothing wrong with you.

If it makes you feel any better I once peed on myself from nerves before approaching a girl, LOL!

If I could get past that without drugs, anyone can.
 

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Haha, yeah. Well i've done a lot of approaches it just seems like it doesn't go away. lol. I just ignore my anxiety, and go for it. It would be easier if I didn't have any anxiety.

PS: Can you guys check my journal, and give me some feeback on my approaches.
 

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The intensity of it fades with time, but I'm not sure if it ever goes away completely.

Even in my prime, I felt a tinge of anxiety on certain approaches (where the girl was really fine)

You have my admiration for feeling that anxiety and not letting it hold you back
 
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