"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Social anxiety, and SEREDYN.

Stéphane

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Have anyone tried this product to deal with social anxiety? I guess it's a drug that's seposed to help agaisnt anxiety attacks. This could be very useful in dealing with everyday tasks. Like big presentations, approach anxiety, etc. What you guys think? The side effects aren't bad so I might consider this.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Probably not, but I think it could help.. I get really nervous before I approach, but usually when I get to the girl I feel a lot better.
 

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ask ur doc for one of the following: xanax, valium, lorazepam
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Unless you have a serious diagnosed problem like bipolar disorder or schizophrenia, these kinds of drugs are usually not necessary.

Pre-approach anxiety is natural at first.. there is nothing wrong with you.

If it makes you feel any better I once peed on myself from nerves before approaching a girl, LOL!

If I could get past that without drugs, anyone can.
 

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Haha, yeah. Well i've done a lot of approaches it just seems like it doesn't go away. lol. I just ignore my anxiety, and go for it. It would be easier if I didn't have any anxiety.

PS: Can you guys check my journal, and give me some feeback on my approaches.
 

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The intensity of it fades with time, but I'm not sure if it ever goes away completely.

Even in my prime, I felt a tinge of anxiety on certain approaches (where the girl was really fine)

You have my admiration for feeling that anxiety and not letting it hold you back
 
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