"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So when you go into a bar and approach a group

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Whats the best openers/conversation topics to go in with and lead on? Wanting to befriend them/talk to a certain girl.

I noticed sometimes when i approach a girl in a group directly i get **** blocked alot a girl says shes my girlfriend i swear this was like 3 times with the same chick lmao. So how do i avoid crap like this?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The few times this has paid off for me, I have told the c0ckblocking gf of hers that "I'm here to chill out and have a good time, not eat her" with a smile on my face. I also tell her that she is definitely the type my good looking friend goes for, but he couldn't make it out tonight.
Realize they aren't c0ckblocking you to protect their friend. They are jealous and don't want their friend leaving them alone. The line about your good looking friend may pacify the gf for the evening and she will let you move in.

It's also a good idea to small talk the friend a little so she doesn't feel isolated.

Give it a try.
 

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Act like you are the one who makes this party. Ask them with full confidense , if they have good time and then introduce yourself. First 10 minutes or so listen to everybody and later try to isolate your target. Remember , everybody will notice that you are there for a certain reason so being smooth is your only bet. Or you could just leave the group alone and later join the chick that you want to approach. Try to have fun first.
 

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Sit close to the group, listen in on their conversation a little bit, and then join it with your input. Wow the whole group with your conversation and then scoot over and join. I have done this, and I actually just saw a guy do this about a week ago at a cafeteria I was eating in at lunch time. The group was talking about video games. He was at the table next. He started talking about the game. And after about 10 minutes he just moved over to their table and they all kept talking. I didn't see if he scored or not, I left before that.

Another option I have done is accidentely head to the restroom or out for a smoke or fresh air at the same time she does.
 

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I have tried a different approach a couple times.

Walk around like you own the place and greet all groups of women when you walk in or make your way around. Cheers, hi five, "are you guys having a great time? enjoy your night" or whatever matches your personality... Then go do your thing, ignore them, and keep an eye out for eye contact... I have probably done this 5 different times and 2 women orbited near me... Didn't close with a number, but had some good convos... Still working on the number closing.

Granted ,I was with the boys, so it didn't matter if they came up or not.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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