"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So when you go into a bar and approach a group

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Whats the best openers/conversation topics to go in with and lead on? Wanting to befriend them/talk to a certain girl.

I noticed sometimes when i approach a girl in a group directly i get **** blocked alot a girl says shes my girlfriend i swear this was like 3 times with the same chick lmao. So how do i avoid crap like this?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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The few times this has paid off for me, I have told the c0ckblocking gf of hers that "I'm here to chill out and have a good time, not eat her" with a smile on my face. I also tell her that she is definitely the type my good looking friend goes for, but he couldn't make it out tonight.
Realize they aren't c0ckblocking you to protect their friend. They are jealous and don't want their friend leaving them alone. The line about your good looking friend may pacify the gf for the evening and she will let you move in.

It's also a good idea to small talk the friend a little so she doesn't feel isolated.

Give it a try.
 

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Act like you are the one who makes this party. Ask them with full confidense , if they have good time and then introduce yourself. First 10 minutes or so listen to everybody and later try to isolate your target. Remember , everybody will notice that you are there for a certain reason so being smooth is your only bet. Or you could just leave the group alone and later join the chick that you want to approach. Try to have fun first.
 

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Sit close to the group, listen in on their conversation a little bit, and then join it with your input. Wow the whole group with your conversation and then scoot over and join. I have done this, and I actually just saw a guy do this about a week ago at a cafeteria I was eating in at lunch time. The group was talking about video games. He was at the table next. He started talking about the game. And after about 10 minutes he just moved over to their table and they all kept talking. I didn't see if he scored or not, I left before that.

Another option I have done is accidentely head to the restroom or out for a smoke or fresh air at the same time she does.
 

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I have tried a different approach a couple times.

Walk around like you own the place and greet all groups of women when you walk in or make your way around. Cheers, hi five, "are you guys having a great time? enjoy your night" or whatever matches your personality... Then go do your thing, ignore them, and keep an eye out for eye contact... I have probably done this 5 different times and 2 women orbited near me... Didn't close with a number, but had some good convos... Still working on the number closing.

Granted ,I was with the boys, so it didn't matter if they came up or not.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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