"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So what should I do next? (trying not to be AFC)

BannedGod

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I'm struggling not to be AFC about this, but it's hard lol

Anyways, I've been spending a lot of time with her in the past few weeks, and she is very flirty but I don't know if she has interest in me or not, and I want to find out to move on if she is not interesed, but I don't know how to do so. Should I try to make a move on her? (asking her on a date would be stupid, we already went to the movies and I go to her house often)... Or should I talk to her about it?

I need suggestions people! And please backup what you say, I can't base what I'm going to do on a few words.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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flexion_

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Make a move. Its the only way. If you want backup then read the DJ bible.
 

n00bPimp

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Should I try to make a move on her? (asking her on a date would be stupid, we already went to the movies and I go to her house often)... Or should I talk to her about it?
Talk to her about what? Making a move on her? Just make your move, big man. Its better to say sorry than to ask permission.
 

JPFromTally

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There is no accidents with women. If a girl flirts with you it's because she likes you. Right now you're afraid of rejection. This is the reason you choose to talk instead of to act. An AFC asks, "Can I kiss you?" A DJ just does it.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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While you're hanging around with her escalate things physically - start pushing her around and slap her @ss. Flick her ear.. throw sh!t at her, it doesn't matter. Just get physical and play with her until she's becomes submissive and plays the victim - then you can do as you please to her.

If she's interested she will get excited by it all and act really girly and feminine so just go in for the kiss - it will lead to sex if that's what you want, so come prepared!

I'd back it up but I don't have her name and number.

The Muscly Jerk
 

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JPFromTally said:
There is no accidents with women. If a girl flirts with you it's because she likes you.
A lot of girls I know are just naturally flirty. And they're just being misperceived.

As for the OP, how does she flirt with you? Does she touch you in anyway?
 

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If she isn't a big flirt, like with other guys, make a move.
But if she isn't into you... Then you will ruin your friendship...
 

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do you want be hanging out with her all the time while she talks about her attraction to other men?


**** it man, you dont want to be her friend. Call her up and ask if she wants to go on a date, if she says no, say 'ok gotta go, ill cya around' and never speak to her again
 

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Hey man, let me tell you something. And this is from a guy who's probably been through more stupid girl insecurity than you can imagine. Just make a move, try to straight up kiss her. Its one of the most liberating things you can do. On a singular level its awesome binary, yes or no. If its no, then what else could you have done? She won't hate, she'll actually respect you more for being a man about it. But maybe she kisses you back. And maybe its great.

Kissing a girl is the man version of the **** test. If she doesn't react, then who cares? A girl not kissing you isn't that big a deal, you'll laugh about. In fact, its much less humilating than never even trying. For real. They'll usually kiss back too, unless you're a complete douche.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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