"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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So what should I do next? (trying not to be AFC)

BannedGod

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I'm struggling not to be AFC about this, but it's hard lol

Anyways, I've been spending a lot of time with her in the past few weeks, and she is very flirty but I don't know if she has interest in me or not, and I want to find out to move on if she is not interesed, but I don't know how to do so. Should I try to make a move on her? (asking her on a date would be stupid, we already went to the movies and I go to her house often)... Or should I talk to her about it?

I need suggestions people! And please backup what you say, I can't base what I'm going to do on a few words.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Make a move. Its the only way. If you want backup then read the DJ bible.
 

n00bPimp

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Should I try to make a move on her? (asking her on a date would be stupid, we already went to the movies and I go to her house often)... Or should I talk to her about it?
Talk to her about what? Making a move on her? Just make your move, big man. Its better to say sorry than to ask permission.
 

JPFromTally

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There is no accidents with women. If a girl flirts with you it's because she likes you. Right now you're afraid of rejection. This is the reason you choose to talk instead of to act. An AFC asks, "Can I kiss you?" A DJ just does it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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musclyjerk

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While you're hanging around with her escalate things physically - start pushing her around and slap her @ss. Flick her ear.. throw sh!t at her, it doesn't matter. Just get physical and play with her until she's becomes submissive and plays the victim - then you can do as you please to her.

If she's interested she will get excited by it all and act really girly and feminine so just go in for the kiss - it will lead to sex if that's what you want, so come prepared!

I'd back it up but I don't have her name and number.

The Muscly Jerk
 

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JPFromTally said:
There is no accidents with women. If a girl flirts with you it's because she likes you.
A lot of girls I know are just naturally flirty. And they're just being misperceived.

As for the OP, how does she flirt with you? Does she touch you in anyway?
 

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If she isn't a big flirt, like with other guys, make a move.
But if she isn't into you... Then you will ruin your friendship...
 

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do you want be hanging out with her all the time while she talks about her attraction to other men?


**** it man, you dont want to be her friend. Call her up and ask if she wants to go on a date, if she says no, say 'ok gotta go, ill cya around' and never speak to her again
 

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Hey man, let me tell you something. And this is from a guy who's probably been through more stupid girl insecurity than you can imagine. Just make a move, try to straight up kiss her. Its one of the most liberating things you can do. On a singular level its awesome binary, yes or no. If its no, then what else could you have done? She won't hate, she'll actually respect you more for being a man about it. But maybe she kisses you back. And maybe its great.

Kissing a girl is the man version of the **** test. If she doesn't react, then who cares? A girl not kissing you isn't that big a deal, you'll laugh about. In fact, its much less humilating than never even trying. For real. They'll usually kiss back too, unless you're a complete douche.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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