"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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So what should I do next? (trying not to be AFC)

BannedGod

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I'm struggling not to be AFC about this, but it's hard lol

Anyways, I've been spending a lot of time with her in the past few weeks, and she is very flirty but I don't know if she has interest in me or not, and I want to find out to move on if she is not interesed, but I don't know how to do so. Should I try to make a move on her? (asking her on a date would be stupid, we already went to the movies and I go to her house often)... Or should I talk to her about it?

I need suggestions people! And please backup what you say, I can't base what I'm going to do on a few words.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Make a move. Its the only way. If you want backup then read the DJ bible.
 

n00bPimp

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Should I try to make a move on her? (asking her on a date would be stupid, we already went to the movies and I go to her house often)... Or should I talk to her about it?
Talk to her about what? Making a move on her? Just make your move, big man. Its better to say sorry than to ask permission.
 

JPFromTally

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There is no accidents with women. If a girl flirts with you it's because she likes you. Right now you're afraid of rejection. This is the reason you choose to talk instead of to act. An AFC asks, "Can I kiss you?" A DJ just does it.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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musclyjerk

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While you're hanging around with her escalate things physically - start pushing her around and slap her @ss. Flick her ear.. throw sh!t at her, it doesn't matter. Just get physical and play with her until she's becomes submissive and plays the victim - then you can do as you please to her.

If she's interested she will get excited by it all and act really girly and feminine so just go in for the kiss - it will lead to sex if that's what you want, so come prepared!

I'd back it up but I don't have her name and number.

The Muscly Jerk
 

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JPFromTally said:
There is no accidents with women. If a girl flirts with you it's because she likes you.
A lot of girls I know are just naturally flirty. And they're just being misperceived.

As for the OP, how does she flirt with you? Does she touch you in anyway?
 

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If she isn't a big flirt, like with other guys, make a move.
But if she isn't into you... Then you will ruin your friendship...
 

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do you want be hanging out with her all the time while she talks about her attraction to other men?


**** it man, you dont want to be her friend. Call her up and ask if she wants to go on a date, if she says no, say 'ok gotta go, ill cya around' and never speak to her again
 

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Hey man, let me tell you something. And this is from a guy who's probably been through more stupid girl insecurity than you can imagine. Just make a move, try to straight up kiss her. Its one of the most liberating things you can do. On a singular level its awesome binary, yes or no. If its no, then what else could you have done? She won't hate, she'll actually respect you more for being a man about it. But maybe she kisses you back. And maybe its great.

Kissing a girl is the man version of the **** test. If she doesn't react, then who cares? A girl not kissing you isn't that big a deal, you'll laugh about. In fact, its much less humilating than never even trying. For real. They'll usually kiss back too, unless you're a complete douche.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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