"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So what is the deal i have to ask girl out right when i see her?

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I didnt see the big deal i mean i got her number and i thought i could hit her up tonight so i calles and then texted her no reply what is the deal? She cant at least reply to a question we are in same class??
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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How many threads like this are you going to start before you get that you haven't a clue and need to learn and then practice?

It's not her, it's not them, it's YOU.
 

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No troll...go ask one of your troll girls out
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Mate TT is right. Reading the DJ Bible is the price of admission. Crawl walk run
 

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Troll or hopeless. Gets detailed advice and never posts back feedback.
 
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Basically i talked with her after class and then got her number asked her to send me an app we talked for a while. I tried calling and texting her yesterday no reply?
 

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continue texting her at all hours of the day and asking her why she wont respond. she will go out with you then guaranteed.
Yeah, and buy her flowers and chocolates, too!

Eliminate the competition and stand out, by telling her how you feel, LOL!!!

/verbal irony
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Basically i talked with her after class and then got her number asked her to send me an app we talked for a while. I tried calling and texting her yesterday no reply?
So much context missing but I'll highlight why I think you didn't hear back from her,

1) She likely didn't have high interest to begin with. You were prob nervous when you got her number and she sensed desperation.
2) You texted and called her the same day. If she didn't already think you were desperate, well she does now.
3) You probably texted something generic and pointless, confirming your lack of options.

The fact you're posting about a mundane interaction with a girl as if it's some big deal is consistent with my points.
 
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She just replied today. I asked her about apps because we are in mediation class together. I was not nervous at all when talking to her and i did not call and text her same day i waited 48 hours but point is they say you should do same day man***** told me.
 

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She just replied today. I asked her about apps because we are in mediation class together. I was not nervous at all when talking to her and i did not call and text her same day i waited 48 hours but point is they say you should do same day man***** told me.
Wait til she replies or just try again a few days later and don't make a big deal out of it. So she didn't respond, so what?
 

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So your original post was Sunday at 8:35pm, your new post was Tuesday night at 8:35pm.

You waited 48 hours to text her. How long did you wait for a response? 8 minutes?
 
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Ok i texted her tuesday night 7pm and sunday at 5 i met her but point is 2 days later i texted her and she replied back this morning. Im gonna ask her out sunday when i see her at class
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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It isn't AS easy being direct with a girl you'll be seeing every week in class- if she likes you straight away then yes, be direct. Instadate her after class "I'm grabbing a drink at (insert bar)- let's go together." If she likes you but can't right now, get her number then wait a while as usual. If she's kinda neutral on you (it'll be pretty clear- IOIs don't lie) then asking her out and being rebuffed COULD make things awkward in future classes- but only if you give a sh*t.

Regret your actions, not your inaction.
 
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I have her number but when i called her she didnt answer and she replied to my text the next day. Its better to ask out in person? How should i do it if i see her in class every week? I think i should try in person at least i go next wensday to class.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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