"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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So what is the deal i have to ask girl out right when i see her?

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I didnt see the big deal i mean i got her number and i thought i could hit her up tonight so i calles and then texted her no reply what is the deal? She cant at least reply to a question we are in same class??
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How many threads like this are you going to start before you get that you haven't a clue and need to learn and then practice?

It's not her, it's not them, it's YOU.
 

marmel75

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No troll...go ask one of your troll girls out
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Mate TT is right. Reading the DJ Bible is the price of admission. Crawl walk run
 

ubercat

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Troll or hopeless. Gets detailed advice and never posts back feedback.
 
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Basically i talked with her after class and then got her number asked her to send me an app we talked for a while. I tried calling and texting her yesterday no reply?
 

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continue texting her at all hours of the day and asking her why she wont respond. she will go out with you then guaranteed.
Yeah, and buy her flowers and chocolates, too!

Eliminate the competition and stand out, by telling her how you feel, LOL!!!

/verbal irony
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Basically i talked with her after class and then got her number asked her to send me an app we talked for a while. I tried calling and texting her yesterday no reply?
So much context missing but I'll highlight why I think you didn't hear back from her,

1) She likely didn't have high interest to begin with. You were prob nervous when you got her number and she sensed desperation.
2) You texted and called her the same day. If she didn't already think you were desperate, well she does now.
3) You probably texted something generic and pointless, confirming your lack of options.

The fact you're posting about a mundane interaction with a girl as if it's some big deal is consistent with my points.
 
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She just replied today. I asked her about apps because we are in mediation class together. I was not nervous at all when talking to her and i did not call and text her same day i waited 48 hours but point is they say you should do same day man***** told me.
 

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She just replied today. I asked her about apps because we are in mediation class together. I was not nervous at all when talking to her and i did not call and text her same day i waited 48 hours but point is they say you should do same day man***** told me.
Wait til she replies or just try again a few days later and don't make a big deal out of it. So she didn't respond, so what?
 

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So your original post was Sunday at 8:35pm, your new post was Tuesday night at 8:35pm.

You waited 48 hours to text her. How long did you wait for a response? 8 minutes?
 
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Ok i texted her tuesday night 7pm and sunday at 5 i met her but point is 2 days later i texted her and she replied back this morning. Im gonna ask her out sunday when i see her at class
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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It isn't AS easy being direct with a girl you'll be seeing every week in class- if she likes you straight away then yes, be direct. Instadate her after class "I'm grabbing a drink at (insert bar)- let's go together." If she likes you but can't right now, get her number then wait a while as usual. If she's kinda neutral on you (it'll be pretty clear- IOIs don't lie) then asking her out and being rebuffed COULD make things awkward in future classes- but only if you give a sh*t.

Regret your actions, not your inaction.
 
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I have her number but when i called her she didnt answer and she replied to my text the next day. Its better to ask out in person? How should i do it if i see her in class every week? I think i should try in person at least i go next wensday to class.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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