"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
So what exactly is Paul Janka's appeal?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
spinaroonie
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I showed these clips to a guy who had no clue what Janka looks like. He thought the guy looked shady as hell. All of you guys saying its his looks have seen him before and know he looksIceberg said:
It looks like Janka went out of his way to obscure his good looks. If Janka ran his game without the beard, cap and shades, guys here will be saying Janka gets his numbers due to looks not game.
IMO, the Janka's success comes from incredible non-verbal subcommunication and a smooth, relaxed, confident delivery.
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No doubt. It's like that episode of Seinfeld where some guy hits on Elaine right in front of him. He was just friends with her, but still thought it was disrespectful that the guy hit on her with him there.BigSmooth said:
Janka probably thought "Oh, here's a very hot chick with some short chode looking guy, this has to be money". I wonder if the guy was taller than him, well muscled, and tattooed, with a few scars, if Janka would have even approached?
He got the number under completely false pretenses too. Pretty sneaky.
the presence of someone filming janka automatically targets him as high value and he can look as 'weird' as he wants and still pull...lol chicks are so mental and delusional these days they might think they are part of some new reality show....as to janka's stated numbers...well...no man ever lied about their pull numbers right
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Never seen this guy before in my life. I dont sit around watching "PUAs" "in the field".spinaroonie said:
I sport a beard 75% of the time. I'm a man. I'm supposed to have hair. You think "good looking" guys get full-body wax?
Eh. Sure whatever. Don't really care where his success comes from. I'm just glad he's enjoying it.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
"How to get laid in NYC" is a classic, entertaining read !
Here's a TV profile clip on him from Dec. 2007
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgWUKUQ0etk
What? It is fake? No way! I believe everything I see on youtube that is trying to sell me something.Burroughs said:The thing to consider is how many of the girls knew a camera was on them even if it was 'hidden'...(remember the girls most likely signed releases otherwise janka is opening himself to huge liability)
the presence of someone filming janka automatically targets him as high value and he can look as 'weird' as he wants and still pull...lol chicks are so mental and delusional these days they might think they are part of some new reality show....as to janka's stated numbers...well...no man ever lied about their pull numbers right
Tall guy +1
Has decent set of hair +1
Dresses down and casual +1
Doesn't say dumb things +1
Doesn't talk about weather or boring stuff +1
What more do you need? A lot of guys thinking attracting women is some sort of mystical magical thing were you need to look like Brad and talk like Obama before the women will give you the time of day.
Maybe the stuck up rich ones, but most are normal girls wanting to get laid as much as guys. Just look decent and DONT SAY DUMB THINGS.
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.