"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
So what exactly is Paul Janka's appeal?
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
spinaroonie
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I showed these clips to a guy who had no clue what Janka looks like. He thought the guy looked shady as hell. All of you guys saying its his looks have seen him before and know he looksIceberg said:
It looks like Janka went out of his way to obscure his good looks. If Janka ran his game without the beard, cap and shades, guys here will be saying Janka gets his numbers due to looks not game.
IMO, the Janka's success comes from incredible non-verbal subcommunication and a smooth, relaxed, confident delivery.
zekko
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No doubt. It's like that episode of Seinfeld where some guy hits on Elaine right in front of him. He was just friends with her, but still thought it was disrespectful that the guy hit on her with him there.BigSmooth said:
Janka probably thought "Oh, here's a very hot chick with some short chode looking guy, this has to be money". I wonder if the guy was taller than him, well muscled, and tattooed, with a few scars, if Janka would have even approached?
He got the number under completely false pretenses too. Pretty sneaky.
the presence of someone filming janka automatically targets him as high value and he can look as 'weird' as he wants and still pull...lol chicks are so mental and delusional these days they might think they are part of some new reality show....as to janka's stated numbers...well...no man ever lied about their pull numbers right
Iceberg
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Never seen this guy before in my life. I dont sit around watching "PUAs" "in the field".spinaroonie said:
I sport a beard 75% of the time. I'm a man. I'm supposed to have hair. You think "good looking" guys get full-body wax?
Eh. Sure whatever. Don't really care where his success comes from. I'm just glad he's enjoying it.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
"How to get laid in NYC" is a classic, entertaining read !
Here's a TV profile clip on him from Dec. 2007
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgWUKUQ0etk
What? It is fake? No way! I believe everything I see on youtube that is trying to sell me something.Burroughs said:The thing to consider is how many of the girls knew a camera was on them even if it was 'hidden'...(remember the girls most likely signed releases otherwise janka is opening himself to huge liability)
the presence of someone filming janka automatically targets him as high value and he can look as 'weird' as he wants and still pull...lol chicks are so mental and delusional these days they might think they are part of some new reality show....as to janka's stated numbers...well...no man ever lied about their pull numbers right
Tall guy +1
Has decent set of hair +1
Dresses down and casual +1
Doesn't say dumb things +1
Doesn't talk about weather or boring stuff +1
What more do you need? A lot of guys thinking attracting women is some sort of mystical magical thing were you need to look like Brad and talk like Obama before the women will give you the time of day.
Maybe the stuck up rich ones, but most are normal girls wanting to get laid as much as guys. Just look decent and DONT SAY DUMB THINGS.
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.