"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So what exactly is Paul Janka's appeal?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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I showed these clips to a guy who had no clue what Janka looks like. He thought the guy looked shady as hell. All of you guys saying its his looks have seen him before and know he looksIceberg said:
It looks like Janka went out of his way to obscure his good looks. If Janka ran his game without the beard, cap and shades, guys here will be saying Janka gets his numbers due to looks not game.
IMO, the Janka's success comes from incredible non-verbal subcommunication and a smooth, relaxed, confident delivery.
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No doubt. It's like that episode of Seinfeld where some guy hits on Elaine right in front of him. He was just friends with her, but still thought it was disrespectful that the guy hit on her with him there.BigSmooth said:
Janka probably thought "Oh, here's a very hot chick with some short chode looking guy, this has to be money". I wonder if the guy was taller than him, well muscled, and tattooed, with a few scars, if Janka would have even approached?
He got the number under completely false pretenses too. Pretty sneaky.
the presence of someone filming janka automatically targets him as high value and he can look as 'weird' as he wants and still pull...lol chicks are so mental and delusional these days they might think they are part of some new reality show....as to janka's stated numbers...well...no man ever lied about their pull numbers right
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Never seen this guy before in my life. I dont sit around watching "PUAs" "in the field".spinaroonie said:
I sport a beard 75% of the time. I'm a man. I'm supposed to have hair. You think "good looking" guys get full-body wax?
Eh. Sure whatever. Don't really care where his success comes from. I'm just glad he's enjoying it.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
"How to get laid in NYC" is a classic, entertaining read !
Here's a TV profile clip on him from Dec. 2007
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sgWUKUQ0etk
What? It is fake? No way! I believe everything I see on youtube that is trying to sell me something.Burroughs said:The thing to consider is how many of the girls knew a camera was on them even if it was 'hidden'...(remember the girls most likely signed releases otherwise janka is opening himself to huge liability)
the presence of someone filming janka automatically targets him as high value and he can look as 'weird' as he wants and still pull...lol chicks are so mental and delusional these days they might think they are part of some new reality show....as to janka's stated numbers...well...no man ever lied about their pull numbers right
Tall guy +1
Has decent set of hair +1
Dresses down and casual +1
Doesn't say dumb things +1
Doesn't talk about weather or boring stuff +1
What more do you need? A lot of guys thinking attracting women is some sort of mystical magical thing were you need to look like Brad and talk like Obama before the women will give you the time of day.
Maybe the stuck up rich ones, but most are normal girls wanting to get laid as much as guys. Just look decent and DONT SAY DUMB THINGS.
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.