Earlier in the week i was approached and asked by a girl what i thought about her. her friend had tried to hook us up like a year ago. never really had this kind of approach nor situation before how would a dj w years experience respond with words?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
"So what do you think about me"?
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Either toss it back to her:
"What do you think I think about you?" or
"What should I think of you?"
"What do you think I think about you?" or
"What should I think of you?"
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
But then she asks "Why do you think I'm cool?..."
What can you say besides something about her tits?
What can you say besides something about her tits?
i actually said that i told her "you seem kinda cool" and then i told her a few good qualities but i limited how much i told her and i told her i'd like to get to know her better. now shes asked how she can get in touch with me i gotta figure out a way to take back the dominance (or lead). suggestions?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Everytime I got this line thrown at me, she's trying to assure herself that she's up to your standards.
So, you tell her that you think she's cool, because if she wasn't, then you wouldn't be there talking to her. However, *pushes the on button for the rating system*, you got 2 points for trying.
So, you tell her that you think she's cool, because if she wasn't, then you wouldn't be there talking to her. However, *pushes the on button for the rating system*, you got 2 points for trying.