Backup boyfriend is WAY worse than friend zone imo. I was the backup once and didn’t even know that term existed. She never gave me the LJBF speech or mentioned the word friend, but be dammed if she didn’t treat me like a friend. Weirdest thing ever.
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
So this is what some males are turning to? Man who threatened to kill ‘as many girls as I see’ because he was repeatedly rejected...
- Thread starter RickTheToad
- Start date
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
RickTheToad
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The only time in my 37+ years I've had the LJBF speech, but I was given the LJBFB speech, which, I feel is just as bad. She fvcks you, but is wined and dined by others. Sounds good... right? No so much if you are being downgraded from a relationship to a LJBFB's. Shows, at least to me, your only value to her was your penis.
Well see to me that is better than a backup. Plus at least you know exactly where you stand with the LJBF speech. As a backup you do all the boyfriend stuff but don’t get sex, yet you can’t see other people cause she accuses you of cheating even though you aren’t exclusive at all. I’d happily let’s just be friends if I was getting sex, friend me all you want! I just hate the not knowing wtf I am and that’s why it took me so long to understand what a backup was because I’d never heard the term. It flat out sucks.