Backup boyfriend is WAY worse than friend zone imo. I was the backup once and didn’t even know that term existed. She never gave me the LJBF speech or mentioned the word friend, but be dammed if she didn’t treat me like a friend. Weirdest thing ever.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
So this is what some males are turning to? Man who threatened to kill ‘as many girls as I see’ because he was repeatedly rejected...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
RickTheToad
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The only time in my 37+ years I've had the LJBF speech, but I was given the LJBFB speech, which, I feel is just as bad. She fvcks you, but is wined and dined by others. Sounds good... right? No so much if you are being downgraded from a relationship to a LJBFB's. Shows, at least to me, your only value to her was your penis.
Well see to me that is better than a backup. Plus at least you know exactly where you stand with the LJBF speech. As a backup you do all the boyfriend stuff but don’t get sex, yet you can’t see other people cause she accuses you of cheating even though you aren’t exclusive at all. I’d happily let’s just be friends if I was getting sex, friend me all you want! I just hate the not knowing wtf I am and that’s why it took me so long to understand what a backup was because I’d never heard the term. It flat out sucks.