I knew here from earlier, because we both went to the same YMCA when we were younger. She lives a block away from me. Everyday when I walk back from the library, I pass her house. She says hi to me and I say hi back and continue on. She is cute, playful, and has a nice body and I know she likes me, because she always says hi first and likes to play around with me. Once she even invited me in, but I declined. I do not know or care wether she has a boyfriend. I am a focused man. What should I do after the "hi" part?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
So there is this girl....
- Thread starter Arsinel
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Just have a talk with her. No big deal really, and if you think the conversation went well and she seems attracted to you ask for her number, or tell her something like: "hey wanna go to xyz on wednesday and hang out?".
Krak
Don Juan
She invited you in and you declinedArsinel said:
Sounds like she wants a quickie from you. Just stop and talk with her next time you see her, see where it goes.
You probably don't want to say that but chances are if you play it right, she'll invite you in again. Then you can just make a move on her.
Rocko
Senior Don Juan
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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