I knew here from earlier, because we both went to the same YMCA when we were younger. She lives a block away from me. Everyday when I walk back from the library, I pass her house. She says hi to me and I say hi back and continue on. She is cute, playful, and has a nice body and I know she likes me, because she always says hi first and likes to play around with me. Once she even invited me in, but I declined. I do not know or care wether she has a boyfriend. I am a focused man. What should I do after the "hi" part?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
So there is this girl....
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Just have a talk with her. No big deal really, and if you think the conversation went well and she seems attracted to you ask for her number, or tell her something like: "hey wanna go to xyz on wednesday and hang out?".
Krak
Don Juan
She invited you in and you declinedArsinel said:
Sounds like she wants a quickie from you. Just stop and talk with her next time you see her, see where it goes.
You probably don't want to say that but chances are if you play it right, she'll invite you in again. Then you can just make a move on her.
Rocko
Senior Don Juan
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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