Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Wish it was that easy. We have history. Will spin a few plates, though.
Thanks, indifference, yet again! So, glad things never became "official".
What does that mean and why does it matter?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That means, she's put me thru stuff like this before. If I walk away, she usually starts stalking me after a month or so. She doesn't know how to communicate what she wants. Its been around 14 months. We have a deep connection, being both introverts.
Umm, and you are with this woman why? This chick is going to turn out psycho
I can say, I'm not happy with the situation... buy psycho... I think you don't know introverts. Try a library or a bookstore. Oh, and don't bother them, they're busy being awesome.
I WAS an introvert until I got a job in retail and was forced to talk to people all day every day and became very comfortable with it. I'm still somewhat introverted, there are times I'd rather be alone than hanging out with others or being social. So I'd say I'm pretty familiar with them.
Typical extrovert response.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
No that's bullish!t, sorry.
OP You should look into a new Casino That was sold. Find your self a nice Super Spy Girlfriend. Blue Knight yourself.
No, you were just shy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She was my main chick... we were crazy about each other. She got jealous and ended it. Still not giving a sh!t because... at the end of the day...it's meant to be, or it's not. Odds are, she'll be back... But I'm not waiting around. Way too many hotties around here.
No, I wasn't shy I was/am introverted. I STILL get energy from doing that, and many times prefer that. Like sitting down and programming, or taking online classes or doing something that exercises my brain, or simply being alone. I mean I am part of the American Mensa after all, I fit the profile rather well.
INTJ here also...
