"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So many different views,I'm so confused

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I pretty much spent a whole days worth reading Don Juan type discussion and theories and I have to say that I'm pretty damn confused.
One person says that Romancing a girl is for "losers" and to just go for it in the most blaint way and Another person says to be extremely patient and distant.

I'm going out tonight with some friends guys and girls and I have no clue on what I should do. I'm really trying not to be negative but I really just see the night ending up no better than others.

Can somebody give me some specific homework? For some reason I work better with "homework." (Assigned)
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I got some homework for you. Act before you think. Listen to your instincts, you know where they are. Its that voice that says this is the way and there is no other.


Listen to your instincts and take action before you begin rationalizing and the fear creeps in. Just do it.
 

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those different views represent different styles. u shouldnt follow everything that others say, but take the best from everyone and add it to your own abilities. make your own style.

"u cant learn everything overnight". in this case, "rome wasnt built in a day". what i mean is, dont expect to come here, read a few articles, post 3 times, and become an insta-dj. tonight might not work out wonderful like u may want, but thats ok. u can work on your stuff, and maybe the next time u go out, it'll be better.

for tonight, i suggest u dont worry about it. just be a guy chilling with his friends on a..... tuesday night. all these tips and junk bungled in your brain will just confuse u and bring u down. u wont enjoy the night at all.

have fun!
 

So pimp its scary

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For sure... it took me almost a year from finding this site before I considered myself to be 'average' with women.
 

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but i found out for all the lifestyle djs techqnies... u must first over come something

TO LOVE URSELF


CONFIDENCE NIGA!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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