"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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So Im Raising the bar higher

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So if i go after average chicks and have ug's throw themselves at me, then if i go after really hot popular chicks, i will get thrown on my ass but, have the average/cute chicks throwing themselves at me. Am i onto something?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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BBX, like gambling, it's an 'ideal' situation. That could happen, but you could also end up with the ug's still going for you (such a harsh word, but true) as well as the average/cute ones.

But give it a go, I mean sure, again like gambling, someone always gets lucky and defies principle ;)
 

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im putting the 7's off the pedstool cuz its only getting me ugs, so i mean if i put the 10's on the pedstool and go after them, the 7's will be easier
 

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Don't put anyone on the pedestal except yourself.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Agreed ^^. As soon as you put em on the pedestal, they'll wrap you around their little finger and twwiiiiist.
 
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