She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
the wingman and the other girl were seemingly getting along very well too. They were both muslim so they had that connection
she got bored of you and felt trapped so she excused herself to the bathroom in order to escape.
in the past, whenever I've gotten some traction started with a woman like this, they've stuck to me all night like glue that's why I'm so puzzled
once again, you are trying to rationalize how you did everything correctly and ignoring what everyone says
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I think this is just a lack of interest
of course she would have
Most divorces happen to guys that think everything is going great.
It appeared the one girl might be into you, so OF COURSE you liked the other one. You're nothing if not consistent.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I talked to girl 2 at first, we got along great but she said she was Muslim and she was a little too chubby for my taste
WHY are you posting asking "why"?
Again, here's your trophy.....
Not all women are the same so.... no use pondering over why she didn’t act the same same way other women acted when you got some traction.
Most people don’t behave like themselves at a bar. It’s a bar. With alcohol. And a pick up vibe. It’s OLD in the flesh. Not the best way to meet your potential wife. And as you don’t want to gain experience and confidence by just dating decent looking interested women because you think that’s immoral, why are you going to bars?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
cant wait for his justfication s to why he is right and you are wrong. want a copy of that trophy?
i go to bars because i live in the suburbs and its hard to even see single women in their mid 20s anywhere else
Of course you were
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
