"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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So I got totally AMOG'd by a girl today...

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Before class started today, i was trying to find a seat...I asked this girl in my class if this seat was taken she says no, so i proceed to sit down and chat with my classmates around me... then another hb7.5 classmate of mine approaches me and says in a loud assertive voice:

hb7.5: "What are you doing in my seat?!? Get up, this seats mine..."

Ken785: *confused (she caught me off guard) "Ugh...ok"

Then i proceed to get up...shes says...

hb7.5: LOL..."he got up!"

hb7.5: "Wait...sit back down.."

Ken785: *still confused "huh??"

hb7.5: "Dont let anyone talk to you like that, youre supposed to be like 'B1tch! This is my seat!!'

Ken785:*still confused and shocked "....."

hb7.5: "We were talking about you the other day.." (I was absent)

hb7.5: "We liked your idea on blah blah..."

Then the teacher asked for ideas and i raised my hand....

hb7.5 "Raise your hand higher ken, and be loud, like everyone else"

I did that and was heard....


...so yeah, I was totally AMOG'd by her, in a good way though...this girl is the talkative assertive type...I was never self conscience of my assertiveness before, even though i knew and was told i needed to be so, it hadn't reached my psyche yet kinda.

Today she made me realize it, she taught me a lesson today, a lesson i should have realized a long time ago, I guess I just needed it kicked in my as$ for me to learn, but i'm thankful to her for it. Really made me wake up.

For you guys trying to change into a DJ, remind yourselves that being ASSERTIVE and TAKING CHARGE is one of the main keys...don't be too soft spoken, don't be afraid to speak up with command so you can be heard, also don't take sh1t from anyone! :eek:
 
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Nice story good thing to remember. Reps for you
 

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"you can still have the seat.. but I'm not gonna get out of it..."
 

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Here's a wakeup:

It is extremely pathetic that you jumped out of your seat when that little girl said "jump".

Do you realize a little girl is giving you lessons on how to be a man?

Read that again.

You need to unplug yourself from your habitual comforts (especially the internet) and spend some time doing something that intimidates you, be it approaching women or any other fear.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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BMX

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I thought you dropped out of school?
 

Ken785

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Corona said:
Here's a wakeup:

It is extremely pathetic that you jumped out of your seat when that little girl said "jump".

Do you realize a little girl is giving you lessons on how to be a man?

Read that again.

You need to unplug yourself from your habitual comforts (especially the internet) and spend some time doing something that intimidates you, be it approaching women or any other fear.
and did you not read that i said she caught me off guard?? Im not used to people talking to me like that out of nowhere so i just reacted...im not going to fight a b1tch over a seat.

Bmx- no i decided it was best to stay in.
 

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Ken785 said:
and did you not read that i said she caught me off guard?? Im not used to people talking to me like that out of nowhere so i just reacted...
It's supposed to be engrained. You shouldn't have to sit there and have rational thought about "being a man."
 

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Geesh, lighten up on this guy. He's on here admitting he did the wrong thing and taking full responsibility for it, wtf is everyone kicking when he is down for.

Everyone gets caught of guard at times. Not the end of the world.

Besides, we lean more from our failures, and I sometimes learn from reading the failures of others. I'd rather see some one come on here put up honest posts about the good and the bad, then continually read through endless posts of philosophical rantings or people bragging about their successes.
 

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Tell her to get on her knees and suck your meaty ****.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Joe The Homophobe

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dude, any girl that does that to you wants to ____ you! you think they would give the time of day to a buck toothed 4 eyed nerd? the girl is trying to get your attention and is trying to get you to act like a man! she is dying for you to make a move and the only move you should make is to neg the hell outta her. She will be riding you in no time.
 

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Corona said:
Here's a wakeup:

It is extremely pathetic that you jumped out of your seat when that little girl said "jump".

Do you realize a little girl is giving you lessons on how to be a man?

Read that again.

You need to unplug yourself from your habitual comforts (especially the internet) and spend some time doing something that intimidates you, be it approaching women or any other fear.
:crackup: :crackup:

He is so correct I think you ruined any chance you had with her.
 

Ken785

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Tookie said:
:crackup: :crackup:

He is so correct I think you ruined any chance you had with her.
No...im not interested in her.

Also to joe: I dont think that was the case.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I think some of you guys should not be so arrogant as to think: pshh a girl is teaching you how to be a man - how dare she! No. She actually did him a favor, but opening his eyes on something. Yes, she wants to see men behaving like men... that's why she is a woman. And sometimes they notice those things that we dont notice.
 

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DJVladdy said:
I think some of you guys should not be so arrogant as to think: pshh a girl is teaching you how to be a man - how dare she! No. She actually did him a favor, but opening his eyes on something. Yes, she wants to see men behaving like men... that's why she is a woman. And sometimes they notice those things that we dont notice.
Thank you.
 
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