"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So I got totally AMOG'd by a girl today...

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Before class started today, i was trying to find a seat...I asked this girl in my class if this seat was taken she says no, so i proceed to sit down and chat with my classmates around me... then another hb7.5 classmate of mine approaches me and says in a loud assertive voice:

hb7.5: "What are you doing in my seat?!? Get up, this seats mine..."

Ken785: *confused (she caught me off guard) "Ugh...ok"

Then i proceed to get up...shes says...

hb7.5: LOL..."he got up!"

hb7.5: "Wait...sit back down.."

Ken785: *still confused "huh??"

hb7.5: "Dont let anyone talk to you like that, youre supposed to be like 'B1tch! This is my seat!!'

Ken785:*still confused and shocked "....."

hb7.5: "We were talking about you the other day.." (I was absent)

hb7.5: "We liked your idea on blah blah..."

Then the teacher asked for ideas and i raised my hand....

hb7.5 "Raise your hand higher ken, and be loud, like everyone else"

I did that and was heard....


...so yeah, I was totally AMOG'd by her, in a good way though...this girl is the talkative assertive type...I was never self conscience of my assertiveness before, even though i knew and was told i needed to be so, it hadn't reached my psyche yet kinda.

Today she made me realize it, she taught me a lesson today, a lesson i should have realized a long time ago, I guess I just needed it kicked in my as$ for me to learn, but i'm thankful to her for it. Really made me wake up.

For you guys trying to change into a DJ, remind yourselves that being ASSERTIVE and TAKING CHARGE is one of the main keys...don't be too soft spoken, don't be afraid to speak up with command so you can be heard, also don't take sh1t from anyone! :eek:
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Nice story good thing to remember. Reps for you
 
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"you can still have the seat.. but I'm not gonna get out of it..."
 
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Here's a wakeup:

It is extremely pathetic that you jumped out of your seat when that little girl said "jump".

Do you realize a little girl is giving you lessons on how to be a man?

Read that again.

You need to unplug yourself from your habitual comforts (especially the internet) and spend some time doing something that intimidates you, be it approaching women or any other fear.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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I thought you dropped out of school?
 
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Corona said:
Here's a wakeup:

It is extremely pathetic that you jumped out of your seat when that little girl said "jump".

Do you realize a little girl is giving you lessons on how to be a man?

Read that again.

You need to unplug yourself from your habitual comforts (especially the internet) and spend some time doing something that intimidates you, be it approaching women or any other fear.
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and did you not read that i said she caught me off guard?? Im not used to people talking to me like that out of nowhere so i just reacted...im not going to fight a b1tch over a seat.

Bmx- no i decided it was best to stay in.
 
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Ken785 said:
and did you not read that i said she caught me off guard?? Im not used to people talking to me like that out of nowhere so i just reacted...
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It's supposed to be engrained. You shouldn't have to sit there and have rational thought about "being a man."
 
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Geesh, lighten up on this guy. He's on here admitting he did the wrong thing and taking full responsibility for it, wtf is everyone kicking when he is down for.

Everyone gets caught of guard at times. Not the end of the world.

Besides, we lean more from our failures, and I sometimes learn from reading the failures of others. I'd rather see some one come on here put up honest posts about the good and the bad, then continually read through endless posts of philosophical rantings or people bragging about their successes.
 
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Tell her to get on her knees and suck your meaty ****.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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dude, any girl that does that to you wants to ____ you! you think they would give the time of day to a buck toothed 4 eyed nerd? the girl is trying to get your attention and is trying to get you to act like a man! she is dying for you to make a move and the only move you should make is to neg the hell outta her. She will be riding you in no time.
 
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Corona said:
Here's a wakeup:

It is extremely pathetic that you jumped out of your seat when that little girl said "jump".

Do you realize a little girl is giving you lessons on how to be a man?

Read that again.

You need to unplug yourself from your habitual comforts (especially the internet) and spend some time doing something that intimidates you, be it approaching women or any other fear.
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:crackup: :crackup:

He is so correct I think you ruined any chance you had with her.
 
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Tookie said:
:crackup: :crackup:

He is so correct I think you ruined any chance you had with her.
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No...im not interested in her.

Also to joe: I dont think that was the case.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I think some of you guys should not be so arrogant as to think: pshh a girl is teaching you how to be a man - how dare she! No. She actually did him a favor, but opening his eyes on something. Yes, she wants to see men behaving like men... that's why she is a woman. And sometimes they notice those things that we dont notice.
 
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DJVladdy said:
I think some of you guys should not be so arrogant as to think: pshh a girl is teaching you how to be a man - how dare she! No. She actually did him a favor, but opening his eyes on something. Yes, she wants to see men behaving like men... that's why she is a woman. And sometimes they notice those things that we dont notice.
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Thank you.
 
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