"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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So easy yet so hard...

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Ok from the start...
Used to goto college with a really pretty girl, hardly ever spoke to her. She didnt really show any interest. Now this was a coupla years ago and ive changed loads since then. Grown from 5"6 to 6"3.. plus some facial hair and muscles.

Now we randomly met at a club about a week ago and she was really interested. Conversation was flowing, and she was giving off the right signs. I asked her for her number before leaving, but she didnt know it :cool:, so instead she gave me her name so i could add her on facebook. I added her on facebook and she insisted we talk on MSN (hope you guys are familiar with that, chattin thing...) I know you guys are against that kinda stuff but i thought i might give it a try. Now ive spoken to her a couple of times, and things seem to be going well...

Here comes the problem... She knows im seeing someone, but doesnt really have a problem with chilling with me. I havent really made progress further than the flirting stage. I was hoping you guys could advise me on how to make further progress...
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Been "with them"? That doesn't explain anything. Are you dating her? Fvck buddies? What? You have to be more detailed.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So then... what? Do you wanna get with this new chick and cheat on your gf? That's pretty sh!tty man. What are you planning to do?
 
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Hmm basically... My girls going uni this year pretty far away. And I dont think im going to see her for a while, which kinda pisses me off, and makes me feel guilty. Then again, with her going so far away all the time and only periodic phone calls, i wanna keep my options open and keep this new girl interested. Just incase she decides that the relationship isnt working anymore. Not exactly cheat on her right the way.
 
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What are you asking advice for then? To see if its OK? That's up to your morals man.

If its advice for moving things along with this new girl, then are you saying you don't know how? You got a gf, right? You should know what to do.
 
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Further progress? Don't chat on MSN other than to get her digits. Plan something. See her. Start getting her emotionally attached to you. Why are you seeking validation for your desires on a forum? Go for it and don't look back. Stop being so f*cking passive.
 
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