Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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So easy yet so hard...

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Ok from the start...
Used to goto college with a really pretty girl, hardly ever spoke to her. She didnt really show any interest. Now this was a coupla years ago and ive changed loads since then. Grown from 5"6 to 6"3.. plus some facial hair and muscles.

Now we randomly met at a club about a week ago and she was really interested. Conversation was flowing, and she was giving off the right signs. I asked her for her number before leaving, but she didnt know it :cool:, so instead she gave me her name so i could add her on facebook. I added her on facebook and she insisted we talk on MSN (hope you guys are familiar with that, chattin thing...) I know you guys are against that kinda stuff but i thought i might give it a try. Now ive spoken to her a couple of times, and things seem to be going well...

Here comes the problem... She knows im seeing someone, but doesnt really have a problem with chilling with me. I havent really made progress further than the flirting stage. I was hoping you guys could advise me on how to make further progress...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Been "with them"? That doesn't explain anything. Are you dating her? Fvck buddies? What? You have to be more detailed.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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So then... what? Do you wanna get with this new chick and cheat on your gf? That's pretty sh!tty man. What are you planning to do?
 
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Hmm basically... My girls going uni this year pretty far away. And I dont think im going to see her for a while, which kinda pisses me off, and makes me feel guilty. Then again, with her going so far away all the time and only periodic phone calls, i wanna keep my options open and keep this new girl interested. Just incase she decides that the relationship isnt working anymore. Not exactly cheat on her right the way.
 
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What are you asking advice for then? To see if its OK? That's up to your morals man.

If its advice for moving things along with this new girl, then are you saying you don't know how? You got a gf, right? You should know what to do.
 
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Further progress? Don't chat on MSN other than to get her digits. Plan something. See her. Start getting her emotionally attached to you. Why are you seeking validation for your desires on a forum? Go for it and don't look back. Stop being so f*cking passive.
 
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