Wow, so we went out to dinner Friday night after work and I insisted on paying even though she offered to pay at least half, after that we talked for a few hours and I invited her to my house and we had a couple of drinks and we actually had sex. I took her home this morning and I told her that I love spending time with her and we kissed each other and she just said "See you on Monday", So are we together or what? I never did ask her out or anything but she doesn't seem to stop me when I make moves on her and especially us making love last night. How will I know if it's official?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
SO close yet so far.. UPDATE!
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I am looking for a relationship now because I enjoy spending time with her and before I just liked her for her looks and now I know she is everything I want in a woman, what I meant by official like how do I make it official that we would be together as boyfriend/girlfriend? I'm sure she wouldn't just **** a guy and thats all she isn't that kind of person and I respect that.
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TO , I sit corrected. Good form!
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Okay, maybe you weren't full of 5hit. My apologies.
Again, you can't just jump into a LTR. Experience a STR with her first before you decide to keep her in for the long haul. Just have fun dating her. It's too early to be thinking of marriage.
What are you basing this on? Did she tell you she doesn't fvck a guy before entering into a relationship? It sounds like you're jumping to this conclusion because she's too nice to be a wh0re. Trust me, wh0res can be nice people. Women need to get laid just like men do. Only time will tell if you were just a quick fix, or if she's really wanting to be with you for the long haul.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.