"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So, are you a pretending to be a "JERK" now and

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be that nice guy again after you get married?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by DJnoob
be that nice guy again after you get married?
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You should always be nice. Just not a pushover. Don't be nice to get people to like you. Be nice because you are. And if you find yourself in a situation where you shouldn't be nice..then don't be!
Don't accept everything. Draw some lines. Have some rules. But remember that a DJ is always a gentleman, and he does nice things. But never to be liked. That's the difference.
 
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I think "nice guy" is the wrong term to use..."pushover" is much better. It's people that are eager to please others that are lame and annoying. Even I don't like that...I'd much rather prefer someone who has the balls to tell me what they think even if they disagree.

I've misunderstood this too...and I was a jerk to girls when I talked to them and I just ended up coming off as rude...and they would leave. Although, in two cases it worked and the girl was into me.
 
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I'll credit Metal Fortress for pointing out that all this sosuave terminology is destroying how we communicate words. A nice person is not a pushover/please love me character. It's someone who does good because they want to do good things.

In regards to the thread, it's not that I TRY to be a jerk so to speak. I never try to tear others apart or look for a fight with my insults......It's about truly enjoying busting balls because it lightens the mood. It's an informal way of communication that makes you feel like you're talking to a friend rather than a stranger. So in this respect, I'll only stop being a jerk when I become so serious about life that I just wanna stick to the normal routine way of dealing with people. I guess routine becomes an important part of marriage so being a jerk just seems to naturally fade.

Until then, DJ til I die.
 
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