Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Bro what are you in grade 2? That's not "testing the water", its asking for approval and pretty childish. You want to gauge interest level after the match say "want to grab a drink around the corner?"
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
That is third party, approval seeking behavior, and a big turn off for women. This is junior high school, "Ask her if she likes me!". You definitely made your friend look extremely weak. Which made you look bad by association.
I'm pretty sure that if we were Chad & Jamal, they would have replied differently.
And I'm sure if you were 13 years old... it may have worked out better as well. Behave consistent with who you are.... anything else appears inauthentic.