You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Bro what are you in grade 2? That's not "testing the water", its asking for approval and pretty childish. You want to gauge interest level after the match say "want to grab a drink around the corner?"
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
That is third party, approval seeking behavior, and a big turn off for women. This is junior high school, "Ask her if she likes me!". You definitely made your friend look extremely weak. Which made you look bad by association.
I'm pretty sure that if we were Chad & Jamal, they would have replied differently.
And I'm sure if you were 13 years old... it may have worked out better as well. Behave consistent with who you are.... anything else appears inauthentic.