Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Bro what are you in grade 2? That's not "testing the water", its asking for approval and pretty childish. You want to gauge interest level after the match say "want to grab a drink around the corner?"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That is third party, approval seeking behavior, and a big turn off for women. This is junior high school, "Ask her if she likes me!". You definitely made your friend look extremely weak. Which made you look bad by association.
I'm pretty sure that if we were Chad & Jamal, they would have replied differently.
And I'm sure if you were 13 years old... it may have worked out better as well. Behave consistent with who you are.... anything else appears inauthentic.