"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Hey Guys,

Short question, moreso for curiosity and then I’ll say what I do usually.


When you meet a girl and have a date or two with them and things are going well, do you ever initiate adding them (adding them first, before they add you) on Snapchat, Instagram, etc?


Personally, I almost never ever do this, and if I become Snapchat / Instagram friends with any girls I’ve gone on dates with, it’s them adding me; to which I’ll accept after several days usually.

I also don’t buy into texting nonsense for the sake of trying to build rapport - so it probably falls in the same bucket. Typically I arrange a future date 2-5 days after the last date, and after securing definite plans I barely text, just enough to ensure logistics are tight or to let them know to get their cute butt downstairs for me to pick them up.

Thoughts? Experiences one way or the other?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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after a date or two, i would say no. initially after getting a number and you're trying to pull them into your world and you want to show them what your about without texting or to bait them, then yes maybe if your photos are indeed good bait or a reflection of your 'social' value.
 

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after a date or two, i would say no. initially after getting a number and you're trying to pull them into your world and you want to show them what your about without texting or to bait them, then yes maybe if your photos are indeed good bait or a reflection of your 'social' value.
I would think that any man with true purpose and social value wouldn’t need to try to flaunt it or make it known to her. She should be able to sense or notice these things without a dumb little Snapchat message here or there
 

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true, but depends on the audience and your personal goal with that person.

PUA goal is to sleep with whomever you find attractive, so what I described above is one of those tools.

If that isn't your style, then your original question has been answered by you.
 

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true, but depends on the audience and your personal goal with that person.

PUA goal is to sleep with whomever you find attractive, so what I described above is one of those tools.

If that isn't your style, then your original question has been answered by you.

For sure, makes sense. Not really looking for advice at all here - just curious where people stand on the subject. Especially the difference for if you’re just trying to sleep with a girl vs potential LTR
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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