"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Hey Guys,

Short question, moreso for curiosity and then I’ll say what I do usually.


When you meet a girl and have a date or two with them and things are going well, do you ever initiate adding them (adding them first, before they add you) on Snapchat, Instagram, etc?


Personally, I almost never ever do this, and if I become Snapchat / Instagram friends with any girls I’ve gone on dates with, it’s them adding me; to which I’ll accept after several days usually.

I also don’t buy into texting nonsense for the sake of trying to build rapport - so it probably falls in the same bucket. Typically I arrange a future date 2-5 days after the last date, and after securing definite plans I barely text, just enough to ensure logistics are tight or to let them know to get their cute butt downstairs for me to pick them up.

Thoughts? Experiences one way or the other?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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after a date or two, i would say no. initially after getting a number and you're trying to pull them into your world and you want to show them what your about without texting or to bait them, then yes maybe if your photos are indeed good bait or a reflection of your 'social' value.
 

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after a date or two, i would say no. initially after getting a number and you're trying to pull them into your world and you want to show them what your about without texting or to bait them, then yes maybe if your photos are indeed good bait or a reflection of your 'social' value.
I would think that any man with true purpose and social value wouldn’t need to try to flaunt it or make it known to her. She should be able to sense or notice these things without a dumb little Snapchat message here or there
 

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true, but depends on the audience and your personal goal with that person.

PUA goal is to sleep with whomever you find attractive, so what I described above is one of those tools.

If that isn't your style, then your original question has been answered by you.
 

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true, but depends on the audience and your personal goal with that person.

PUA goal is to sleep with whomever you find attractive, so what I described above is one of those tools.

If that isn't your style, then your original question has been answered by you.

For sure, makes sense. Not really looking for advice at all here - just curious where people stand on the subject. Especially the difference for if you’re just trying to sleep with a girl vs potential LTR
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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