Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Not only is it nasty, but it also shows the woman has no control over what is good for her own body.Yeah, because who'd want a girl that'd put one of those nasty things in her mouth...
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
This same argument can apply to tattoos.Not only is it nasty, but it also shows the woman has no control over what is good for her own body.
Instant dismissal
I'll usually grant a woman a hall pass on the above mentality. Men on the other hand should know better. If we are going to be "the judge" then should we also judge the finger pointers for acting preachy while also driving carcinogenic automobiles?There are between 5000 - 7000 carcinogens in cigarettes. You be the judge.
I agree but I also dont mind if a woman has one or two tatts as long as they arent trashy. Its pretty common for a lot of attractive women to have some type of writing tatt on their collarbone or wrist. A lot of tatts or trashy tatts are a deal breaker.This same argument can apply to tattoos.
Last time I checked, people are not sucking on exhaust pipes.I'll usually grant a woman a hall pass on the above mentality. Men on the other hand should know better. If we are going to be "the judge" then should we also judge the finger pointers for acting preachy while also driving carcinogenic automobiles?
You're initial response was preaching about making healthy choices. Meanwhile, you point fingers at smokers while also being responsible for far worse pollutants (driving an automobile or using the auto industry for transportation.)Last time I checked, people are not sucking on exhaust pipes.
If it's a matter of being health conscious, then why drive a car (assuming that you do) or walk around areas where automobiles are in the vicinity. Emissions from an automobile are far more dangerous than that emitted from a cigarette.The tattoos dont affect my health if I am around them. Smoking does.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
well to be fair, people trying to end their lives do this consistently lolLast time I checked, people are not sucking on exhaust pipes.
Tattoos look great IMO on young women who are in great shape. One of my plates has almost sleeves and she looks sexy with them as she is thin/athletic. The problem is they fade and people typically get fat and the tattoos get stretched. Nothing looks worse than old tats on a fat woman.I agree but I also dont mind if a woman has one or two tatts as long as they arent trashy. Its pretty common for a lot of attractive women to have some type of writing tatt on their collarbone or wrist. A lot of tatts or trashy tatts are a deal breaker.
The tattoos dont affect my health if I am around them. Smoking does.
You're initial response was preaching about making healthy choices. Meanwhile, you point fingers at smokers while also being responsible for far worse pollutants (driving an automobile or using the auto industry for transportation.)
If it's a matter of being health conscious, then why drive a car (assuming that you do) or walk around areas where automobiles are in the vicinity. Emissions from an automobile are far more dangerous than that emitted from a cigarette.
If your inquiry is if killing yourself isn't a big deal to you, then go for it. If it concerns you, then stop.Guys i want your honest opinion about smoking cigarretes.
Is it a big deal ?
I will grant a woman an exception to the rule if she cares about her health enough to graduate to vaping for the purpose of gradually cutting down her daily nicotine intake level to achieve the end goal of quitting.I'll usually grant a woman a hall pass on the above mentality. Men on the other hand should know better. If we are going to be "the judge" then should we also judge the finger pointers for acting preachy while also driving carcinogenic automobiles?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
One of my favorite Ron White clips
Very true, some of us that haven’t personally been through an addiction cycle like that may not recognize the absolute pull strength it has on others behaviors…Sadly some of those juvenile experiments result in very long addictions that are difficult to shake off even when you get older and wiser.
A chick who smokes may be caught up in the addiction while genuinely battling to stop.Because i understand smoking and its struggles, im more accommodative of chicks who may smoke.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.