"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Guys i want your honest opinion about smoking cigarretes.
Is it a big deal ?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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This answer will mainly depend on the person, demographics and age.

I'm the only smoker in my group of friends and rarely do I end up dating women that smoke.
Generally speaking..... smoking went from being considered "leisurely" to being simply accepted, then tolerated and now socially unacceptable.

In the past twenty years, about half the non-smoking women I've dated have said that they don't date smokers (I was the exception). Also, when having to step outside and smoke, it seems like the caliber of fellow smokers is a lot lower than when I first started.

Seems like today, the average person views smokers in the same light as I view people with tattoos.
In reality, both practices are equally stupid. This isn't to offend any form members that are inked. It's just a matter of us following trends of the time (and both are ridiculous.)
 
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Yeah, because who'd want a girl that'd put one of those nasty things in her mouth...
Not only is it nasty, but it also shows the woman has no control over what is good for her own body.

Instant dismissal
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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There are between 5000 - 7000 carcinogens in cigarettes. You be the judge.
I'll usually grant a woman a hall pass on the above mentality. Men on the other hand should know better. If we are going to be "the judge" then should we also judge the finger pointers for acting preachy while also driving carcinogenic automobiles?
 

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This same argument can apply to tattoos.
I agree but I also dont mind if a woman has one or two tatts as long as they arent trashy. Its pretty common for a lot of attractive women to have some type of writing tatt on their collarbone or wrist. A lot of tatts or trashy tatts are a deal breaker.

The tattoos dont affect my health if I am around them. Smoking does.
 

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I'll usually grant a woman a hall pass on the above mentality. Men on the other hand should know better. If we are going to be "the judge" then should we also judge the finger pointers for acting preachy while also driving carcinogenic automobiles?
Last time I checked, people are not sucking on exhaust pipes.
 

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Last time I checked, people are not sucking on exhaust pipes.
You're initial response was preaching about making healthy choices. Meanwhile, you point fingers at smokers while also being responsible for far worse pollutants (driving an automobile or using the auto industry for transportation.)
The tattoos dont affect my health if I am around them. Smoking does.
If it's a matter of being health conscious, then why drive a car (assuming that you do) or walk around areas where automobiles are in the vicinity. Emissions from an automobile are far more dangerous than that emitted from a cigarette.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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I agree but I also dont mind if a woman has one or two tatts as long as they arent trashy. Its pretty common for a lot of attractive women to have some type of writing tatt on their collarbone or wrist. A lot of tatts or trashy tatts are a deal breaker.

The tattoos dont affect my health if I am around them. Smoking does.
Tattoos look great IMO on young women who are in great shape. One of my plates has almost sleeves and she looks sexy with them as she is thin/athletic. The problem is they fade and people typically get fat and the tattoos get stretched. Nothing looks worse than old tats on a fat woman.
 

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You're initial response was preaching about making healthy choices. Meanwhile, you point fingers at smokers while also being responsible for far worse pollutants (driving an automobile or using the auto industry for transportation.)


If it's a matter of being health conscious, then why drive a car (assuming that you do) or walk around areas where automobiles are in the vicinity. Emissions from an automobile are far more dangerous than that emitted from a cigarette.
 

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Guys i want your honest opinion about smoking cigarretes.
Is it a big deal ?
If your inquiry is if killing yourself isn't a big deal to you, then go for it. If it concerns you, then stop.

If your inquiry is about a girl/date that smokes, then the same principle applies. To me, personally, is a deal-breaker. A huge turn-off. It is a disgusting senseless habit.

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I'll usually grant a woman a hall pass on the above mentality. Men on the other hand should know better. If we are going to be "the judge" then should we also judge the finger pointers for acting preachy while also driving carcinogenic automobiles?
I will grant a woman an exception to the rule if she cares about her health enough to graduate to vaping for the purpose of gradually cutting down her daily nicotine intake level to achieve the end goal of quitting.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I started smoking and then quit a month later back when I was 26ish. My little brother ( the one good with girls) and my mother both took up the habit thanks to me. But they both still smoke.

I haven’t dated any girls that smoked. I would bang one that smokes if there was no kissing
 

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I smoked for 15 years and after a long battle with the habit eventually stopped. We have all been young and experimented with things we thought made us look cool and grown up. Sadly some of those juvenile experiments result in very long addictions that are difficult to shake off even when you get older and wiser.

A chick who smokes may be caught up in the addiction while genuinely battling to stop.Because i understand smoking and its struggles, im more accommodative of chicks who may smoke. I’d just ask that they dont smoke in my presence so i dont relapse. Cigarettes dont impair your personality like weed does, so im cool with a woman who smokes
 

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Sadly some of those juvenile experiments result in very long addictions that are difficult to shake off even when you get older and wiser.

A chick who smokes may be caught up in the addiction while genuinely battling to stop.Because i understand smoking and its struggles, im more accommodative of chicks who may smoke.
Very true, some of us that haven’t personally been through an addiction cycle like that may not recognize the absolute pull strength it has on others behaviors…
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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