"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Smiling - The real answer?

wildchild

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I know alot of people on this say when you are looking at girls you should give them a half smile and others say give them a great big warm grin. Well i have experimented with both and found these outcomes:

1) If you give them a sorta inviting half smile with your mouth closed they do the same back.

2) If you give them a big huge inviting grin they do the same back.

What do you guys recommend maybe some female input from wyldfiire or another one of the ladies on this site would help?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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a smile means nothing, i think acknowledging a person through a nod or a touch on the hand is better.
 

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I disagree deathdealer i think a smile with eye contact can be a powerful sign of confidence some people arnt comfortable with people touching them within the first 2 seconds of meeting them but everyone loves a smile.
 

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If you feel like smiling, then flash a full, warm smile. If you don't feel like smiling, don't force a smile, or smirk, or half-smile...just keep a straight, casual face.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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dj dreamer im not calling it "the real answer" im asking what is the real answer the half smile or the full smile. Im asking what is the best technique to use personally i always give people a full smile when i meet them but i never ever done it with women because i thought it would make me look too keen. Now i smile at every beautiful women i see and i found if you smile its eaiser to strike up a convo when there in smile mode.
 

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Originally posted by wildchild
but i never ever done it with women because i thought it would make me look too keen.
I used to think that too. I stopped thinking that after women started complimenting me on my smile.
 

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Originally posted by wildchild
I know alot of people on this say when you are looking at girls you should give them a half smile and others say give them a great big warm grin. Well i have experimented with both and found these outcomes:

1) If you give them a sorta inviting half smile with your mouth closed they do the same back.

2) If you give them a big huge inviting grin they do the same back.

What do you guys recommend maybe some female input from wyldfiire or another one of the ladies on this site would help?

If there's a shy or sexual body langaue packadged into that smile then yes.

IF the girl is trying to get your attention or make you laugh then by all means smile.

Most of the time I don't walk around cheese-faced or fake laughing at there dumb bullsh!T(cuz that's the mark of a wuss..compliance).
 
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