"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Simplicity (Revisited the 10,000th time)

Gubby

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Step 1: get over social and sexual* anxieties

Step 2: forget about being a "DJ"

Step 3: focus on making yourself someone who's actually worth loving. i.e. live.

Done.


*edit: thanks Fingaz.
 
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sam3083

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Well, thats that done then.

Why are we all still here gubby? I really don't know anymore.
 

Gubby

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sam3083 said:
Well, thats that done then.

Why are we all still here gubby? I really don't know anymore.
Lol is that ironic or serious?? I figure I've met a SH'ITLOAD of cool people on this site. As good a reason as any. You're a cool person yaself sam, I think :D

Besides, sometimes you need to destroy your negative simplicity, turning to positive complexity for inspiration -- finally condensing the complexity into positive simplicity again! It's the dance of the yin and yang man :D
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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sam3083

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Well, I'm glad I gave myself time to think about this.

It wasn't to long ago we were way way way way over-complicating and over-analysing everything. (i.e. here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142003). Even though I still agree with everything said there, we were both, or I was atleast ramming my head into the brick wall, instead of walking around the damn wall! (laugh at yourself thread, anyone?)

I'm terrible for over-analysing. And, I would assume that applies to alot of guys like us. We are smart guys. We don't need routines - or even alot of philosophies. Just a few good ol' home truths.

Seems like the more depressed/scared I am, the more I over-analyse. The happier/freer I am, the more I let it go.


I guess the problem is when the really 'socially awkward/creepy' (ie; not us) come here. This wouldn;t help them at all - they need more direction. Thats where Fingz comes in with his 'weapons of mass seduction'. A great, great, text, btw, lol.


Anywho. Im off to climb a mountain (litterally, lol).
 

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Sam I've learnt when I'm scared/depressed if I let it go I become happier/free. You can mix up the cause and effect.

I think in order to 'get it' simply you have to go through the rigerous journey of overanalysing stuff for a little while and then your subconcious 'gets it' and it all fits together.

Why am I still here? Damn that's a good question...
 
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