"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Simplicity (Revisited the 10,000th time)

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Step 1: get over social and sexual* anxieties

Step 2: forget about being a "DJ"

Step 3: focus on making yourself someone who's actually worth loving. i.e. live.

Done.


*edit: thanks Fingaz.
 
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well, thats that done then.

Why are we all still here gubby? I really don't know anymore.
 

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sam3083 said:
Well, thats that done then.

Why are we all still here gubby? I really don't know anymore.
Lol is that ironic or serious?? I figure I've met a SH'ITLOAD of cool people on this site. As good a reason as any. You're a cool person yaself sam, I think :D

Besides, sometimes you need to destroy your negative simplicity, turning to positive complexity for inspiration -- finally condensing the complexity into positive simplicity again! It's the dance of the yin and yang man :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Well, I'm glad I gave myself time to think about this.

It wasn't to long ago we were way way way way over-complicating and over-analysing everything. (i.e. here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142003). Even though I still agree with everything said there, we were both, or I was atleast ramming my head into the brick wall, instead of walking around the damn wall! (laugh at yourself thread, anyone?)

I'm terrible for over-analysing. And, I would assume that applies to alot of guys like us. We are smart guys. We don't need routines - or even alot of philosophies. Just a few good ol' home truths.

Seems like the more depressed/scared I am, the more I over-analyse. The happier/freer I am, the more I let it go.


I guess the problem is when the really 'socially awkward/creepy' (ie; not us) come here. This wouldn;t help them at all - they need more direction. Thats where Fingz comes in with his 'weapons of mass seduction'. A great, great, text, btw, lol.


Anywho. Im off to climb a mountain (litterally, lol).
 

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Sam I've learnt when I'm scared/depressed if I let it go I become happier/free. You can mix up the cause and effect.

I think in order to 'get it' simply you have to go through the rigerous journey of overanalysing stuff for a little while and then your subconcious 'gets it' and it all fits together.

Why am I still here? Damn that's a good question...
 
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