"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Simplicity (Revisited the 10,000th time)

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Step 1: get over social and sexual* anxieties

Step 2: forget about being a "DJ"

Step 3: focus on making yourself someone who's actually worth loving. i.e. live.

Done.


*edit: thanks Fingaz.
 
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"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Well, thats that done then.

Why are we all still here gubby? I really don't know anymore.
 

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sam3083 said:
Well, thats that done then.

Why are we all still here gubby? I really don't know anymore.
Lol is that ironic or serious?? I figure I've met a SH'ITLOAD of cool people on this site. As good a reason as any. You're a cool person yaself sam, I think :D

Besides, sometimes you need to destroy your negative simplicity, turning to positive complexity for inspiration -- finally condensing the complexity into positive simplicity again! It's the dance of the yin and yang man :D
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Well, I'm glad I gave myself time to think about this.

It wasn't to long ago we were way way way way over-complicating and over-analysing everything. (i.e. here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=142003). Even though I still agree with everything said there, we were both, or I was atleast ramming my head into the brick wall, instead of walking around the damn wall! (laugh at yourself thread, anyone?)

I'm terrible for over-analysing. And, I would assume that applies to alot of guys like us. We are smart guys. We don't need routines - or even alot of philosophies. Just a few good ol' home truths.

Seems like the more depressed/scared I am, the more I over-analyse. The happier/freer I am, the more I let it go.


I guess the problem is when the really 'socially awkward/creepy' (ie; not us) come here. This wouldn;t help them at all - they need more direction. Thats where Fingz comes in with his 'weapons of mass seduction'. A great, great, text, btw, lol.


Anywho. Im off to climb a mountain (litterally, lol).
 

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Sam I've learnt when I'm scared/depressed if I let it go I become happier/free. You can mix up the cause and effect.

I think in order to 'get it' simply you have to go through the rigerous journey of overanalysing stuff for a little while and then your subconcious 'gets it' and it all fits together.

Why am I still here? Damn that's a good question...
 
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