"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Signs of low self esteem in woman?

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Ok what are some signs of low self esteem in woman? Im not talking the obvious like saying im ugly etc etc. But subtle ones.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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  • Introverts
  • Hiding their bodies in photo's online
  • Refusing to get naked with the lights on
  • Very Flat personality
  • Needs to bring a friend with them everywhere they go
  • Prudish/Sexually reserved
 
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How can you take advantage of these girls/what works with them?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I noticed a girl seemed to have low self esteem because she wouldn't take compliments, was picky about pictures, always dressed conservatively, etc.

These aren't foolproof signs because there's other reasons to do these things, but you'll be able to tell from knowing the girl if she's humble or self loathing, a perfectionist or someone who thinks she's ugly, a prude or a scardey cat, etc.
 

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if they have t!ts I automatically suspect low self esteem. :p haha j/k........ sort of.

But if we are being honest here, anybody that feels the need to paint their face with make up, wear shoes that make them taller than they are, and wear padded push up bra's should be suspect! Thats why I said what I did. A person that truly had high self esteem wouldn't feel the need to alter their appearance. Right? Please poke holes in this statement! And why do women do those things anyways?
 
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Low self esteem = insecurities.. Thats all u need to know
 

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if they have t!ts I automatically suspect low self esteem. :p haha j/k........ sort of.

But if we are being honest here, anybody that feels the need to paint their face with make up, wear shoes that make them taller than they are, and wear padded push up bra's should be suspect! Thats why I said what I did. A person that truly had high self esteem wouldn't feel the need to alter their appearance. Right? Please poke holes in this statement! And why do women do those things anyways?
That's a good point. If she feels the need to dress up like she's going out on a tuesday afternoon she's either an attention wh0re or insecure about her real appearance
 

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Anything she does, to make as many men as she can to beta-orbit her, to feel good about herself.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Ok what are some signs of low self esteem in woman? Im not talking the obvious like saying im ugly etc etc. But subtle ones.
Neediness, clinginess, asks you if you are going to leave her after you bang her. Eating disorders, no father present growing up. The list goes on and on. There are also different levels of low self esteem. Bishes with low self esteem I encounter want to be exclusive two weeks in.
 

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Neediness, clinginess, asks you if you are going to leave her after you bang her. Eating disorders, no father present growing up. The list goes on and on. There are also different levels of low self esteem. Bishes with low self esteem I encounter want to be exclusive two weeks in.
2 weeks in ? Lucky b@stard.

I've had them asking after a single fvck.
 

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You can just tell.

People who second guess everything, can’t laugh at themselves, judgmental of others, tons of makeup, needs to always be glammed up to go out anywhere, rude, needy/clingy, asks permission a lot, complains.
 

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Wow all great ways to tell. I dont get where being prude or not sexually putting out would mean low self esteem? How about this thic certain chick hated being in pictures like hated to be in any photo and dressed pretty modestly but when drunk was def a social butterfly. But in every picture it was her making an awkward smile like she didn't know how to pose. When she was in a group of people she didnt know she would get very very clingy. And she was 29 years old and partying like she was 18 like getting wasted and acting like a little girl.
 

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Wow all great ways to tell. I dont get where being prude or not sexually putting out would mean low self esteem? How about this thic certain chick hated being in pictures like hated to be in any photo and dressed pretty modestly but when drunk was def a social butterfly. But in every picture it was her making an awkward smile like she didn't know how to pose. When she was in a group of people she didnt know she would get very very clingy. And she was 29 years old and partying like she was 18 like getting wasted and acting like a little girl.
Not putting out, in the correct context. She could have hangups about sex which can be traced back to having body image issues. Lots of women struggle with sexual aspects and orgasm for reasons of self acceptance and positive body image

Rude or prude - thinks she’s above others; many with this mindset are actually over compensating by feeling inadequate themselves.

Read the six pillars of self esteem. Great book. Very illuminating. Very constructive to build a solid sense of self and frame. Works well when coupled with many of the more positive teachings we derive through SS
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Not putting out, in the correct context. She could have hangups about sex which can be traced back to having body image issues. Lots of women struggle with sexual aspects and orgasm for reasons of self acceptance and positive body image

Rude or prude - thinks she’s above others; many with this mindset are actually over compensating by feeling inadequate themselves.

Read the six pillars of self esteem. Great book. Very illuminating. Very constructive to build a solid sense of self and frame. Works well when coupled with many of the more positive teachings we derive through SS
Her body wasnt amazing but she was thin. No butt and really didnt have "body" but she was cute i dont see where she would be embarrased about her body. She had a stomache that of a pregnant woman though. Either she was heavier set younger which ive seen pictures and she really wasnt or she might of had a kid which is what im kinda thinking... chicks life was a mystery very very very very closed off on her family and past life
 
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Wow all great ways to tell. I dont get where being prude or not sexually putting out would mean low self esteem?
If she's not confident plenty of the following could mannifest:

1. She doesn't like her body so she keeps it covered and never wants to show it, so she's reluctant about sex, wants the lights off only the most safe sex possible nothing risque, etc.

2. She's worried you don't really care about her and are just gonna pump and dump so she practically needs a marriage contract before you'll get anywhere, etc.

That sort of thing. There's plenty of other reasons to be prudish or reserved too so don't misdiagnose
 

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1st might might apply. 2nd one is no she knew i genuinly liked her, i did alot of things for her and im not talking about money i never once gave her money. But i did solid things for her
 

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Doesn't matter if she has low self esteem.

Your god given job is to lead ur women and if you can't then you either get dumped or another dude will take over.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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