"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Signs of low self esteem in woman?

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Ok what are some signs of low self esteem in woman? Im not talking the obvious like saying im ugly etc etc. But subtle ones.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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  • Introverts
  • Hiding their bodies in photo's online
  • Refusing to get naked with the lights on
  • Very Flat personality
  • Needs to bring a friend with them everywhere they go
  • Prudish/Sexually reserved
 
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How can you take advantage of these girls/what works with them?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I noticed a girl seemed to have low self esteem because she wouldn't take compliments, was picky about pictures, always dressed conservatively, etc.

These aren't foolproof signs because there's other reasons to do these things, but you'll be able to tell from knowing the girl if she's humble or self loathing, a perfectionist or someone who thinks she's ugly, a prude or a scardey cat, etc.
 

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if they have t!ts I automatically suspect low self esteem. :p haha j/k........ sort of.

But if we are being honest here, anybody that feels the need to paint their face with make up, wear shoes that make them taller than they are, and wear padded push up bra's should be suspect! Thats why I said what I did. A person that truly had high self esteem wouldn't feel the need to alter their appearance. Right? Please poke holes in this statement! And why do women do those things anyways?
 
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Low self esteem = insecurities.. Thats all u need to know
 

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if they have t!ts I automatically suspect low self esteem. :p haha j/k........ sort of.

But if we are being honest here, anybody that feels the need to paint their face with make up, wear shoes that make them taller than they are, and wear padded push up bra's should be suspect! Thats why I said what I did. A person that truly had high self esteem wouldn't feel the need to alter their appearance. Right? Please poke holes in this statement! And why do women do those things anyways?
That's a good point. If she feels the need to dress up like she's going out on a tuesday afternoon she's either an attention wh0re or insecure about her real appearance
 

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Anything she does, to make as many men as she can to beta-orbit her, to feel good about herself.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ok what are some signs of low self esteem in woman? Im not talking the obvious like saying im ugly etc etc. But subtle ones.
Neediness, clinginess, asks you if you are going to leave her after you bang her. Eating disorders, no father present growing up. The list goes on and on. There are also different levels of low self esteem. Bishes with low self esteem I encounter want to be exclusive two weeks in.
 

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Neediness, clinginess, asks you if you are going to leave her after you bang her. Eating disorders, no father present growing up. The list goes on and on. There are also different levels of low self esteem. Bishes with low self esteem I encounter want to be exclusive two weeks in.
2 weeks in ? Lucky b@stard.

I've had them asking after a single fvck.
 

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You can just tell.

People who second guess everything, can’t laugh at themselves, judgmental of others, tons of makeup, needs to always be glammed up to go out anywhere, rude, needy/clingy, asks permission a lot, complains.
 

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Wow all great ways to tell. I dont get where being prude or not sexually putting out would mean low self esteem? How about this thic certain chick hated being in pictures like hated to be in any photo and dressed pretty modestly but when drunk was def a social butterfly. But in every picture it was her making an awkward smile like she didn't know how to pose. When she was in a group of people she didnt know she would get very very clingy. And she was 29 years old and partying like she was 18 like getting wasted and acting like a little girl.
 

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Wow all great ways to tell. I dont get where being prude or not sexually putting out would mean low self esteem? How about this thic certain chick hated being in pictures like hated to be in any photo and dressed pretty modestly but when drunk was def a social butterfly. But in every picture it was her making an awkward smile like she didn't know how to pose. When she was in a group of people she didnt know she would get very very clingy. And she was 29 years old and partying like she was 18 like getting wasted and acting like a little girl.
Not putting out, in the correct context. She could have hangups about sex which can be traced back to having body image issues. Lots of women struggle with sexual aspects and orgasm for reasons of self acceptance and positive body image

Rude or prude - thinks she’s above others; many with this mindset are actually over compensating by feeling inadequate themselves.

Read the six pillars of self esteem. Great book. Very illuminating. Very constructive to build a solid sense of self and frame. Works well when coupled with many of the more positive teachings we derive through SS
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Not putting out, in the correct context. She could have hangups about sex which can be traced back to having body image issues. Lots of women struggle with sexual aspects and orgasm for reasons of self acceptance and positive body image

Rude or prude - thinks she’s above others; many with this mindset are actually over compensating by feeling inadequate themselves.

Read the six pillars of self esteem. Great book. Very illuminating. Very constructive to build a solid sense of self and frame. Works well when coupled with many of the more positive teachings we derive through SS
Her body wasnt amazing but she was thin. No butt and really didnt have "body" but she was cute i dont see where she would be embarrased about her body. She had a stomache that of a pregnant woman though. Either she was heavier set younger which ive seen pictures and she really wasnt or she might of had a kid which is what im kinda thinking... chicks life was a mystery very very very very closed off on her family and past life
 
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Wow all great ways to tell. I dont get where being prude or not sexually putting out would mean low self esteem?
If she's not confident plenty of the following could mannifest:

1. She doesn't like her body so she keeps it covered and never wants to show it, so she's reluctant about sex, wants the lights off only the most safe sex possible nothing risque, etc.

2. She's worried you don't really care about her and are just gonna pump and dump so she practically needs a marriage contract before you'll get anywhere, etc.

That sort of thing. There's plenty of other reasons to be prudish or reserved too so don't misdiagnose
 

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1st might might apply. 2nd one is no she knew i genuinly liked her, i did alot of things for her and im not talking about money i never once gave her money. But i did solid things for her
 

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Doesn't matter if she has low self esteem.

Your god given job is to lead ur women and if you can't then you either get dumped or another dude will take over.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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