Ryan Adams
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Ok what are some signs of low self esteem in woman? Im not talking the obvious like saying im ugly etc etc. But subtle ones.
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Signs of low self esteem in woman?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Bible_Belt
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ATM.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
devilkingx2
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I noticed a girl seemed to have low self esteem because she wouldn't take compliments, was picky about pictures, always dressed conservatively, etc.
These aren't foolproof signs because there's other reasons to do these things, but you'll be able to tell from knowing the girl if she's humble or self loathing, a perfectionist or someone who thinks she's ugly, a prude or a scardey cat, etc.
These aren't foolproof signs because there's other reasons to do these things, but you'll be able to tell from knowing the girl if she's humble or self loathing, a perfectionist or someone who thinks she's ugly, a prude or a scardey cat, etc.
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if they have t!ts I automatically suspect low self esteem. 
haha j/k........ sort of.
But if we are being honest here, anybody that feels the need to paint their face with make up, wear shoes that make them taller than they are, and wear padded push up bra's should be suspect! Thats why I said what I did. A person that truly had high self esteem wouldn't feel the need to alter their appearance. Right? Please poke holes in this statement! And why do women do those things anyways?
haha j/k........ sort of. But if we are being honest here, anybody that feels the need to paint their face with make up, wear shoes that make them taller than they are, and wear padded push up bra's should be suspect! Thats why I said what I did. A person that truly had high self esteem wouldn't feel the need to alter their appearance. Right? Please poke holes in this statement! And why do women do those things anyways?
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Low self esteem = insecurities.. Thats all u need to know
devilkingx2
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That's a good point. If she feels the need to dress up like she's going out on a tuesday afternoon she's either an attention wh0re or insecure about her real appearanceif they have t!ts I automatically suspect low self esteem.
But if we are being honest here, anybody that feels the need to paint their face with make up, wear shoes that make them taller than they are, and wear padded push up bra's should be suspect! Thats why I said what I did. A person that truly had high self esteem wouldn't feel the need to alter their appearance. Right? Please poke holes in this statement! And why do women do those things anyways?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Neediness, clinginess, asks you if you are going to leave her after you bang her. Eating disorders, no father present growing up. The list goes on and on. There are also different levels of low self esteem. Bishes with low self esteem I encounter want to be exclusive two weeks in.
flowtheory
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You can just tell.
People who second guess everything, can’t laugh at themselves, judgmental of others, tons of makeup, needs to always be glammed up to go out anywhere, rude, needy/clingy, asks permission a lot, complains.
People who second guess everything, can’t laugh at themselves, judgmental of others, tons of makeup, needs to always be glammed up to go out anywhere, rude, needy/clingy, asks permission a lot, complains.
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Wow all great ways to tell. I dont get where being prude or not sexually putting out would mean low self esteem? How about this thic certain chick hated being in pictures like hated to be in any photo and dressed pretty modestly but when drunk was def a social butterfly. But in every picture it was her making an awkward smile like she didn't know how to pose. When she was in a group of people she didnt know she would get very very clingy. And she was 29 years old and partying like she was 18 like getting wasted and acting like a little girl.
flowtheory
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Not putting out, in the correct context. She could have hangups about sex which can be traced back to having body image issues. Lots of women struggle with sexual aspects and orgasm for reasons of self acceptance and positive body image
Rude or prude - thinks she’s above others; many with this mindset are actually over compensating by feeling inadequate themselves.
Read the six pillars of self esteem. Great book. Very illuminating. Very constructive to build a solid sense of self and frame. Works well when coupled with many of the more positive teachings we derive through SS
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Her body wasnt amazing but she was thin. No butt and really didnt have "body" but she was cute i dont see where she would be embarrased about her body. She had a stomache that of a pregnant woman though. Either she was heavier set younger which ive seen pictures and she really wasnt or she might of had a kid which is what im kinda thinking... chicks life was a mystery very very very very closed off on her family and past life
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devilkingx2
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If she's not confident plenty of the following could mannifest:
1. She doesn't like her body so she keeps it covered and never wants to show it, so she's reluctant about sex, wants the lights off only the most safe sex possible nothing risque, etc.
2. She's worried you don't really care about her and are just gonna pump and dump so she practically needs a marriage contract before you'll get anywhere, etc.
That sort of thing. There's plenty of other reasons to be prudish or reserved too so don't misdiagnose
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1st might might apply. 2nd one is no she knew i genuinly liked her, i did alot of things for her and im not talking about money i never once gave her money. But i did solid things for her
taiyuu_otoko
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She dates motherfckers who post on sosuave....
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.