I was reading TonytheTiger's thread (1-1000) and he says he was talking to someone who was shy and told him it might be good to approach women and say you are shy and blush. Is this true? It seems like it is contrary to being confident. Can you use shyness to your advantage, or is it something that you must always get over?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Shyness good?
- Thread starter Hi Jol
- Start date
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
the thing is...if you approach and girl and tell her that your shy, then REALLY, you're not that shy. It works cause your teasing and giving her mized messages. But if you're shy, don't worry too much about it. The important thing is not to turn into some extroverted sonnavb*tch, but to get rid of your fears of social situations.
-Embrace your nature-
-Embrace your nature-
the thing is...if you approach and girl and tell her that your shy, then REALLY, you're not that shy. It works cause your teasing and giving her mized messages. But if you're shy, don't worry too much about it. The important thing is not to turn into some extroverted sonnavb*tch, but to get rid of your fears of social situations.
-Embrace your nature-
-Embrace your nature-
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I think your actions will speak louder then your words. In which case she will think you aren't shy.
I wouldn't try it because it isn't something a man would say and could encourage her attempts at controlling you.
I think the shy comment is being used as a buffer so she isn't as harsh at rejecting you.
just be a man she'll find that more attractive.
just my 0.0002p
I wouldn't try it because it isn't something a man would say and could encourage her attempts at controlling you.
I think the shy comment is being used as a buffer so she isn't as harsh at rejecting you.
just be a man she'll find that more attractive.
just my 0.0002p
assasin
Don Juan
What's the punch line?
I'm shy... so will you get undressed first?
I'm shy... so you'd better kiss me quick before I run away!
I'm shy... but I've got a big ****!
(Wait for the patronising "Awww", timing and delivery is everything on these!)
I'm shy... so will you get undressed first?
I'm shy... so you'd better kiss me quick before I run away!
I'm shy... but I've got a big ****!
(Wait for the patronising "Awww", timing and delivery is everything on these!)
spider_007
Master Don Juan
SHY, no, QUIET but confident, yes
Shy can work for you very well. Shy often works on very confident agressive girls.
The same way confidence works on insecure girls.
As people we look for someone to compliment and supplement us, and sometimes that calls for someone who is the opposite of us, and sometimes that is to find someone who is just like us.
See, you have to be able to size up a girl, if she is in a good mood, use that play on that. If she is in a bad mood, use that to your advantage.
I know I keep repeating myself, but a good DJ can size up a girl and her situaton in about 10 seconds and develop an approch and tactic that works. There is no one method.
****y funny will work on girls in a good mood, but pull that **** on a chick in a bad mood and you will be going home alone and branded an *******.
The same way confidence works on insecure girls.
As people we look for someone to compliment and supplement us, and sometimes that calls for someone who is the opposite of us, and sometimes that is to find someone who is just like us.
See, you have to be able to size up a girl, if she is in a good mood, use that play on that. If she is in a bad mood, use that to your advantage.
I know I keep repeating myself, but a good DJ can size up a girl and her situaton in about 10 seconds and develop an approch and tactic that works. There is no one method.
****y funny will work on girls in a good mood, but pull that **** on a chick in a bad mood and you will be going home alone and branded an *******.