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You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

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Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

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Shyness good?

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I was reading TonytheTiger's thread (1-1000) and he says he was talking to someone who was shy and told him it might be good to approach women and say you are shy and blush. Is this true? It seems like it is contrary to being confident. Can you use shyness to your advantage, or is it something that you must always get over?
 

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the thing is...if you approach and girl and tell her that your shy, then REALLY, you're not that shy. It works cause your teasing and giving her mized messages. But if you're shy, don't worry too much about it. The important thing is not to turn into some extroverted sonnavb*tch, but to get rid of your fears of social situations.

-Embrace your nature-
 

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the thing is...if you approach and girl and tell her that your shy, then REALLY, you're not that shy. It works cause your teasing and giving her mized messages. But if you're shy, don't worry too much about it. The important thing is not to turn into some extroverted sonnavb*tch, but to get rid of your fears of social situations.

-Embrace your nature-
 

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it might work

cuz ur creating a paradox

"how can u be shy if ur talking to me and asking me out?"

u are confusing the chick

i dunno the results of that

someone with FR about this can relate to that?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

Read more...

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I think your actions will speak louder then your words. In which case she will think you aren't shy.

I wouldn't try it because it isn't something a man would say and could encourage her attempts at controlling you.

I think the shy comment is being used as a buffer so she isn't as harsh at rejecting you.

just be a man she'll find that more attractive.

just my 0.0002p
 

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What's the punch line?

I'm shy... so will you get undressed first?

I'm shy... so you'd better kiss me quick before I run away!

I'm shy... but I've got a big ****!

(Wait for the patronising "Awww", timing and delivery is everything on these!)
 

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Shy can work for you very well. Shy often works on very confident agressive girls.

The same way confidence works on insecure girls.

As people we look for someone to compliment and supplement us, and sometimes that calls for someone who is the opposite of us, and sometimes that is to find someone who is just like us.

See, you have to be able to size up a girl, if she is in a good mood, use that play on that. If she is in a bad mood, use that to your advantage.

I know I keep repeating myself, but a good DJ can size up a girl and her situaton in about 10 seconds and develop an approch and tactic that works. There is no one method.

****y funny will work on girls in a good mood, but pull that **** on a chick in a bad mood and you will be going home alone and branded an *******.
 
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