Then they look to you for entertainment every time. Way too much work for me.
i definitely know all about this problem. It really is a pain in the neck when they're too damn quiet to carry on their half of the conversation or w/e.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Then they look to you for entertainment every time. Way too much work for me.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This could be seen as an advantage to some. I like shy girls because I think I can make them more confident in themselves, and they are very dependable and predictable. I'm not the type that likes rollercoaster relationships. Often times these girls are very intelligent, which I like, and if you find one thats hot, youre set.Francisco d'Anconia said:Shy women get very attached and clingy to you if they depend on you to run their lives..
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
The same thing you see in any woman. T and A. :crackup:Francisco d'Anconia said:What do you guys see in shy women anyway?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ToucheTillTheEndOfTime said:The same thing you see in any woman. T and A. :crackup: