Then they look to you for entertainment every time. Way too much work for me.
i definitely know all about this problem. It really is a pain in the neck when they're too damn quiet to carry on their half of the conversation or w/e.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Then they look to you for entertainment every time. Way too much work for me.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
This could be seen as an advantage to some. I like shy girls because I think I can make them more confident in themselves, and they are very dependable and predictable. I'm not the type that likes rollercoaster relationships. Often times these girls are very intelligent, which I like, and if you find one thats hot, youre set.Francisco d'Anconia said:Shy women get very attached and clingy to you if they depend on you to run their lives..
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
The same thing you see in any woman. T and A. :crackup:Francisco d'Anconia said:What do you guys see in shy women anyway?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
ToucheTillTheEndOfTime said:The same thing you see in any woman. T and A. :crackup: