"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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nice_guyeh

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Sup dooooodz?!

There is a new server at my work. Im a kitchen guy
She is dining staff

Very shy. Probably the most shy, soft spoken reaerved female i have met

She is opening up to me though, slowly, still shy as hell

Any advice from those of you who chose to pursure a shy girl?
Any input is appreciated

Thanks
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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In my experience "shy" chicks tend to just be big time wasters. You'll think that they're just slow to open up, right until they start throwing themselves at some guy who isn't you.

If a chick's interested in you she'll make it rather obvious.
 

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Take a chance, invite her out somewhere. I don't know your age, but perhaps invite her out to smoke some hookah or let her see your "dog" haha. Invite her out and report back, don't forget to kino!
 

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I wouldn't say they are necessarily big time wasters (depends on the level of shyness). Like BowTie said, just invite her out to do something and see how she responds.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Zerro said:
In my experience "shy" chicks tend to just be big time wasters. You'll think that they're just slow to open up, right until they start throwing themselves at some guy who isn't you.
This is kind of what I was thinking. Not that I have anything against shy girls, but maybe she just doesn't talk to you that much because she isn't interested.
 

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Shy, take it slow, not ready yet; not good signs. :(

A woman who is interested won't confuse you. Your best bet is to make a move and see how she responds. That will answer many of your questions in this case. That's my ruling. :up:

Case closed.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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