Hmm, this girl I talk to is always making eye contact with me during class, quick glances... but when I talk to her she is extremely bitter and rude sometimes. Is she just covering her true feeling/thoughts up? I dont have much interest in her, but this seems like an interesting situation
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Showing interest and acting like a b1tch
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
There's plenty of possible reasons what, why etc...
She could:
1) Not be interested and be a psycho leading you on, just so she can be rude when you talk to her (not likely)
2) She could like you too much, and so when you do talk to her, she gets shy and doesn't know how to act, so falls back to being withdrawn (you can perceive that as rude and bitter)
3) She is a rude and bitter person all the time
4) It's you, you're just perceiving her wrong...
There's a billion possibilites.
But there's just one fact:
The only way to know for sure is if she doesn't reject you
Yeah, it's kinda ironic. But the only way to know is if you make the move. Ask her out (point blank, not in vague terms), and see what happens. Ask her out more than once. 2-3 times is enough. And this is only in case she likes you so much that she's playing hard to get.
She could:
1) Not be interested and be a psycho leading you on, just so she can be rude when you talk to her (not likely)
2) She could like you too much, and so when you do talk to her, she gets shy and doesn't know how to act, so falls back to being withdrawn (you can perceive that as rude and bitter)
3) She is a rude and bitter person all the time
4) It's you, you're just perceiving her wrong...
There's a billion possibilites.
But there's just one fact:
The only way to know for sure is if she doesn't reject you
Yeah, it's kinda ironic. But the only way to know is if you make the move. Ask her out (point blank, not in vague terms), and see what happens. Ask her out more than once. 2-3 times is enough. And this is only in case she likes you so much that she's playing hard to get.
Hambone2550
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I agree with AlecKNovy. There are a lot of reasons why she's doing it. However, I've been in this situation many times, and most of the time it turns out she was just shy.
Girls that don't have a lot of confidence will do this all of the time. They try and check you out when you're not looking because they're scared of getting caught. So imagine how nervous she would be talking to you if she can't even look at you!!!
If she's really into you, then she'll start to come around after a few conversations. Make a lot of jokes and smile when you talk to her. It will make her feel more comfortable.
Then again, if you're not even interested in her then I guess it doesn't matter anyways!
Girls that don't have a lot of confidence will do this all of the time. They try and check you out when you're not looking because they're scared of getting caught. So imagine how nervous she would be talking to you if she can't even look at you!!!
If she's really into you, then she'll start to come around after a few conversations. Make a lot of jokes and smile when you talk to her. It will make her feel more comfortable.
Then again, if you're not even interested in her then I guess it doesn't matter anyways!
DonGorgon
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put her on the spot.. tell her you know she wants you ..lol
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Like he said.DonGorgon said:
Say I know you want me but, you gotta stop acting like a b!tch first.
Throw the rudeness back at her, girls like it.