Hmm, this girl I talk to is always making eye contact with me during class, quick glances... but when I talk to her she is extremely bitter and rude sometimes. Is she just covering her true feeling/thoughts up? I dont have much interest in her, but this seems like an interesting situation
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Showing interest and acting like a b1tch
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
There's plenty of possible reasons what, why etc...
She could:
1) Not be interested and be a psycho leading you on, just so she can be rude when you talk to her (not likely)
2) She could like you too much, and so when you do talk to her, she gets shy and doesn't know how to act, so falls back to being withdrawn (you can perceive that as rude and bitter)
3) She is a rude and bitter person all the time
4) It's you, you're just perceiving her wrong...
There's a billion possibilites.
But there's just one fact:
The only way to know for sure is if she doesn't reject you
Yeah, it's kinda ironic. But the only way to know is if you make the move. Ask her out (point blank, not in vague terms), and see what happens. Ask her out more than once. 2-3 times is enough. And this is only in case she likes you so much that she's playing hard to get.
She could:
1) Not be interested and be a psycho leading you on, just so she can be rude when you talk to her (not likely)
2) She could like you too much, and so when you do talk to her, she gets shy and doesn't know how to act, so falls back to being withdrawn (you can perceive that as rude and bitter)
3) She is a rude and bitter person all the time
4) It's you, you're just perceiving her wrong...
There's a billion possibilites.
But there's just one fact:
The only way to know for sure is if she doesn't reject you
Yeah, it's kinda ironic. But the only way to know is if you make the move. Ask her out (point blank, not in vague terms), and see what happens. Ask her out more than once. 2-3 times is enough. And this is only in case she likes you so much that she's playing hard to get.
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I agree with AlecKNovy. There are a lot of reasons why she's doing it. However, I've been in this situation many times, and most of the time it turns out she was just shy.
Girls that don't have a lot of confidence will do this all of the time. They try and check you out when you're not looking because they're scared of getting caught. So imagine how nervous she would be talking to you if she can't even look at you!!!
If she's really into you, then she'll start to come around after a few conversations. Make a lot of jokes and smile when you talk to her. It will make her feel more comfortable.
Then again, if you're not even interested in her then I guess it doesn't matter anyways!
Girls that don't have a lot of confidence will do this all of the time. They try and check you out when you're not looking because they're scared of getting caught. So imagine how nervous she would be talking to you if she can't even look at you!!!
If she's really into you, then she'll start to come around after a few conversations. Make a lot of jokes and smile when you talk to her. It will make her feel more comfortable.
Then again, if you're not even interested in her then I guess it doesn't matter anyways!
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put her on the spot.. tell her you know she wants you ..lol
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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Like he said.DonGorgon said:
Say I know you want me but, you gotta stop acting like a b!tch first.
Throw the rudeness back at her, girls like it.