Hmm, this girl I talk to is always making eye contact with me during class, quick glances... but when I talk to her she is extremely bitter and rude sometimes. Is she just covering her true feeling/thoughts up? I dont have much interest in her, but this seems like an interesting situation
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Showing interest and acting like a b1tch
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
There's plenty of possible reasons what, why etc...
She could:
1) Not be interested and be a psycho leading you on, just so she can be rude when you talk to her (not likely)
2) She could like you too much, and so when you do talk to her, she gets shy and doesn't know how to act, so falls back to being withdrawn (you can perceive that as rude and bitter)
3) She is a rude and bitter person all the time
4) It's you, you're just perceiving her wrong...
There's a billion possibilites.
But there's just one fact:
The only way to know for sure is if she doesn't reject you
Yeah, it's kinda ironic. But the only way to know is if you make the move. Ask her out (point blank, not in vague terms), and see what happens. Ask her out more than once. 2-3 times is enough. And this is only in case she likes you so much that she's playing hard to get.
She could:
1) Not be interested and be a psycho leading you on, just so she can be rude when you talk to her (not likely)
2) She could like you too much, and so when you do talk to her, she gets shy and doesn't know how to act, so falls back to being withdrawn (you can perceive that as rude and bitter)
3) She is a rude and bitter person all the time
4) It's you, you're just perceiving her wrong...
There's a billion possibilites.
But there's just one fact:
The only way to know for sure is if she doesn't reject you
Yeah, it's kinda ironic. But the only way to know is if you make the move. Ask her out (point blank, not in vague terms), and see what happens. Ask her out more than once. 2-3 times is enough. And this is only in case she likes you so much that she's playing hard to get.
Hambone2550
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I agree with AlecKNovy. There are a lot of reasons why she's doing it. However, I've been in this situation many times, and most of the time it turns out she was just shy.
Girls that don't have a lot of confidence will do this all of the time. They try and check you out when you're not looking because they're scared of getting caught. So imagine how nervous she would be talking to you if she can't even look at you!!!
If she's really into you, then she'll start to come around after a few conversations. Make a lot of jokes and smile when you talk to her. It will make her feel more comfortable.
Then again, if you're not even interested in her then I guess it doesn't matter anyways!
Girls that don't have a lot of confidence will do this all of the time. They try and check you out when you're not looking because they're scared of getting caught. So imagine how nervous she would be talking to you if she can't even look at you!!!
If she's really into you, then she'll start to come around after a few conversations. Make a lot of jokes and smile when you talk to her. It will make her feel more comfortable.
Then again, if you're not even interested in her then I guess it doesn't matter anyways!
DonGorgon
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put her on the spot.. tell her you know she wants you ..lol
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I.A.F.Y.B.
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Like he said.DonGorgon said:
Say I know you want me but, you gotta stop acting like a b!tch first.
Throw the rudeness back at her, girls like it.