Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Should we really care that much about women?

David Zappa

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Hi guys,

I've come to the realisation that so many men put women on a pedestal and forget about their own goals. In their relationships with women, they forget about their own ambitions, desires, and careers. Never put women ahead of yourself!

Being in a relationship benefits women more! That's why women hate men who say they never want to marry or be in a serious relationship. What I'm trying to get at is this: the benefits conferred to women in a relationship are far greater than that which will be conferred to a man. At the same time, men bear all the risk. Thus, never let yourself get tied down. Only make the girl feel like that you care for her.

Women should be secondary. My own goals are #1, and I won't let anybody get in my way. That, in my humble opnion, is the correct attitude to have - unless women are your only goals in life.

I've told women that my career is #1 and they absolutely hate it. But I get the hunch that they feel sexually attracted to a man who views them as secondary in his own life.

Modern women are too self-centred and childish to be taken seriously. Don't hate them. Forgive them for their ways. But don't take them seriously! Just have fun and date a few at the same time.

Would like to hear your thoughts

P.S I was having a conversation with a female friend in a cab ride home and she said that women a lot of sexual power for the reason that 'it takes two to tango'. I replied by saying that one individuals women's power over me will be greatly reduced if I date 5 women at the same time. She hated my come-back. I guess it hit a nerve.

Take the power back, guys!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Iceberg

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David Zappa said:
Women should be secondary. My own goals are #1, and I won't let anybody get in my way. That, in my humble opnion, is the correct attitude to have - unless women are your only goals in life.
Totally agree. I see too many guys on here focused on finding some magical LTR that will "complete them".

Focus on becoming the man you want to be, think of women as entertainment, and one day your precious LTR just might fall into your lap.

Make women and LTRs the priority, and you'll end up settling for the first thing that comes along. Or worse, you'll drive yourself crazy every time relationship doesn't work out.


I've told women that my career is #1 and they absolutely hate it. But I get the hunch that they feel sexually attracted to a man who views them as secondary in his own life.
I agree. They love it.

Just like you'll see some AFC guys chasing a woman who dangles sex in front of them like a carrot, you'll find women who chase a guy who dangles love in front of them.

They'll never admit it, but they want to compete for your love. Once they have it, it becomes boring, like an old toy.


Modern women are too self-centred and childish to be taken seriously. Don't hate them. Forgive them for their ways. But don't take them seriously! Just have fun and date a few at the same time.
Love it.

If guys would view dating this way, this site would have less venting about "Why doesn't she call me?" and more inspirational topics like, "How do I start my business?" or "Help me plan a backpacking adventure."

If I'm dating Girl X, and she doesn't call me, then I'll either go to Girl Y, or I'll take a break from girls all together and focus on my hobbies, work, or anything else. There are too many great things to think about in the world to be getting all teary-eyed over girls.
 
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There isn't much I can expand on what you have typed David and the same goes for Iceberg, you've both really hit the nail on the head.
 

pdx1138

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Agreed. When you put all your effort into it, it sucks the life out of you.

You first, them second.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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